A Nigerian guy and forum user, Duchez, took to media to share how and why his friend’s girlfriend
rejected a marriage proposal.
In his words
"My friend just shared his story with me. I have advised him but I need your thoughts.
He met a lady around March this year and they became friends. He is an Accountant and works with a Federal Government Agency in Abuja. Along the line he asked her out and she insisted he finishes his ICAN before they can start dating.
Long story short, she later accepted to date him. Probably because he passed all but one of the exams in the Professional stage of ICAN. He recently invested some huge sum of money into a biz deal. He told me it was actually all of his savings and he would become a multi millionaire if the deal works out.
He decided to test this lady to find out if she will stick with him if the going ever gets tough (as a result of our insistence that the lady isn’t really into him). And so he told her that the deal he was working on had failed and that he has become broke. He said he will like to marry her and try to sustain themselves on his current salary of about 180k pending when things become better but she replied that she can’t marry someone who is earning 180k monthly.
She feels it would make her drop from her standard of living as she wants to live inside the city of Abuja and not in the outskirts like Karu or Kubwa. Mind you, her parents live in one of these places and the guy is not even thinking of living in anywhere beyond these places like Nyanya/Mararaba.
This guy loves this girl so bad and is a very hardworking guy. He is hoping to get promoted when he completes his ICAN and is even looking at getting a better job in a bigger Government Agency or a Multinational company. He is so distraught at what the lady said. We have advised him to forget about her and move on, but he is considering opening up to the lady that what he said about the deal was just a test in the hope to make her re-consider him.
Please, were we wrong with our advice? Meanwhile, this guy’s ex loves him like there is no tomorrow and she will gladly marry him even if he was earning 30k monthly but due to family pressure on him to marry a graduate and an Igbo lady, he broke up with her. Me thinks he can still persuade his parents to accept the lady.
If you were in our shoes, will you advice your friend differently?
Thanks for your comments. The lady earns around 180k but she mentioned that she spends around 300k when going shopping and she is scared she would no longer be able to do that if she marries him as she would have to contribute almost all her salary to maintaining the family."
If you think there's no sign short of a diamond ring that can point to whether you're headed for marriage or not, think again. we are here to share eight ways you can tell if your relationship will last a lifetime.
1. Your partner isn't afraid to challenge you.
Constantly butting heads could mean you're headed for a breakup. But, if your partner is willing to kindly voice his or her views in order to challenge you to change yours, psychotherapist and relationship expert Rhonda Richards-Smith says you could be headed for marriage. "If your partner is comfortable enough with you to lovingly call you out privately when they feel you are wrong," says Richards-Smith, "chances are you are in the right relationship."
2. You're one another's biggest cheerleaders.
When you're headed for marriage, says licensed marriage and family therapist Marissa Nelson, you're committed to bringing out the best in your partner. "You encourage one another's individual growth and give support to the pursuit of each other's dreams and career aspirations," she says. "If one of you succeeds, you both win, and that level of strength over time can be a telling sign that engagement is on the horizon."
3. You're vulnerable with each other.
Nelson says that the couples who stay together are the ones who can let loose with one another — doing things like wearing no makeup, without pretense. "Your partner sees you at your worst and best, and loves you unconditionally, flaws and all," she says. "You take good care of one another and look out for your partner's wellbeing with thoughtfulness, kindness, and compassion. It's one the main qualities that let people know this person is the right one
for them."
4. You really care about whether your partner's family likes you.
When you married a person, you also marry his or her family. So, "when things are getting serious in a relationship, you tend to place more weight in what your partner's family thinks of you," says Lori Salkin, matchmaker and dating coach. "I have noticed time and time again that right before couples get engaged, they spend more time with each other's families — and their nerves run high as they hope for their approval or have to respond to disapproval or questions."
5. You trust one another enough to allow some personal space.
Says Richards-Smith, "There's nothing worse than feeling smothered or obligated to track your partner's every move." By allowing your partner time to his or herself to enjoy his or her own hobbies or friends, you're setting yourself up for a successful marriage. "If you are both able to trust one another enough to have your own time, space, and friends, chances are you're on the right track," Richards-Smith explains.
6. You've got each other's back.
"Lean on Me" was a musical hit in part because its lyrics ring true. "Knowing your partner is there for you is vital to knowing that this relationship is for the long haul," says Nelson. "If partners are always responsive through the ups and downs, and feel comfort that this person will go to bat for them no matter what, people feel safe enough to call that person their partner for life."
7. You know your partner's not perfect, but think he or she is perfect for you.
"Having realistic expectations is very important to be able to get through that last mile and get engaged,". Rather than wonder if there is someone better, people who are headed for marriage focus on all the ways their partner is right for them. "There will always be someone more attractive, successful, and so on," she shares. "But what's important is to realize that you are not perfect and this other person may not be either — but together, you are perfect for each other."
8. You make life-decisions together.
Until you tie the knot, you're free to make your own decisions. But couples who include one another in the big ones are almost surely headed for marriage, Nelson says. "These partners plan for the future and think about making life decisions with the unit in mind," she says. "They may devise a plan to pay down student loans and financial debt together, purchase a car in each other's name, or buy a house together. They may have children or begin planning for that next phase in life. You know this relationship is forever because the couple is deeply committed in creating a future of which they can both be proud."
When it comes to getting down on one knee, some men find it old fashioned (kind of like asking for her hand from her parents). But if you decide to kneel, you should do it the right way.
“Getting down on one knee is still the custom when proposing to someone, and not doing so might make the moment too casual, or may not make it clear to the intended what is happening, and that this is the moment. The custom is from days when men bent down and kissed women on the hand. It is reverting and respectful, and it is a touch that should never go out of fashion,” Martinez explains.
Once you’re down there, you might worry about what to say. Again, as Martinez notes, it’s really up to the type of person you are and what kind of woman she is, that should inspire your speech. “If you are shy, like my husband, your preference is to plan something small simple and private. If you and your partner are extroverts, you might plan something more elaborate and unique.”
What to do with that ring Up until the proposal, you should keep it somewhere safe and hidden (and nope, not the sock drawer). You could keep it locked with a key at your desk at work or in a safety deposit box, just to make sure nothing unfortunate happens or she doesn’t go searching and stumble across the prized good. And how about when to hand it to her? When she says ‘yes!’
“You show it to her while you ask, but you do not hand or exchange the ring to her until she officially answers with a resounding yes. Do not start to put it on their finger before she has answered the question, this is an exciting, but nerve wracking time. You do not want to add any additional pressure,” Martinez says.
The biggest mistakes you can make when proposing are all about not putting your partner’s happiness first. While lots of people have certain proposal expectations, make sure the one you plan is in line with your partner's wishes and personality.
What does that imply? Things like: “Having an audience, when this is not in your partner’s nature. Not asking the parents for their blessing, and not subtly finding out your partner’s preferences in the most important piece of jewelry they will wear everyday for the rest of their life are all mistakes that could ruin what would be a very special moment for your future wife,” Martinez says.
Bottom line? Think of her first — and think of how lucky you’ll be to hear that "Yes!"
If you are in a relationship and do not want to become pregnant, you may be undecided about your birth control method. If you don’t want to rely on hormonal birth control or barrier methods, you can try fertility awareness. When you know the days you have a high chance of becoming pregnant, you can avoid intercourse on those days. In the fertility awareness method, both the man and woman are responsible for preventing pregnancy together.
How It Works
The only time you can become pregnant is about 24 hours after ovulation. If you use the fertility awareness method, you track your signs of ovulation to pinpoint the time when you could become pregnant. Since sperm can live inside your body up to five days, you must refrain from having sex — or use a barrier method like a condom — in the days leading up to your ovulation. Estimating your ovulation date correctly is the key to making fertility awareness work as a way to prevent pregnancy.
Methods
Track your ovulation using different methods. You could take your basal body temperature every morning, and write it down on a chart. The day after you ovulate, you’ll see a sharp spike in temperature. This can show you a pattern as to which day in your cycle you ovulate. You can also monitor your cervical mucus by sticking your fingers inside your vagina and swiping them around the cervix. If there is a lot of clear mucus that is stretchy, you are more fertile. You can also simply count the days in your cycle or use ovulation test strips, which show a surge in luteinizing hormone about a day or two before you ovulate. Combining more than one of these methods will give you a better picture and can help make this work for you.
Avoiding Pregnancy
If you want to avoid a pregnancy using the fertility awareness method, you need to avoid sex for five days before and three days after ovulation. Ovulating on time is never a sure thing, though, so to account for errors, you may want to add three days to the beginning and end of that estimation. Aside from abstaining from sex, you could also use a barrier method.
Considerations
Fertility awareness is only effective in women who have a regular cycle. If your cycle is irregular, you will never be able to predict the day you ovulate.
Warning
The only method of birth control that is 100 percent effective is abstinence. According to the American Pregnancy Association, fertility awareness can be 90 percent effective if you are following the method correctly. However, typical use involves a larger margin of error. Failure rates of the average user are around 25 percent.
You might have suspected them for some time, but how can you tell for sure whether your partner is cheating?
While you might be inclined to check their phone or hack their social media accounts it seems that most deceitful spouses, however sly they may be, unknowingly show hints of their infidelity; you just need to know what to look for.
According to David King, managing director for Lipstick Investigations – an Australian private investigators – there are six signs that could suggest your partner is being unfaithful, and that 80 per cent of time your intuition is right.
Speaking to the Daily Mail, King revealed that one of the giveaway signs is a strange change in behaviour which typically connects to the way they look. Alas, if your other hald has started sprucing up their hair, dressing smarter or smelling better, they could be up to no good.
Similarly, suspicious mobile phone use such as putting a new password on it or being overly secretive when a message comes through is also a red flag.
While King says he is unable to comment on the psychology of a cheating person, he did reveal that many of his clients report their partner acting more aggressive than usual.
Be it behaving irrationally and picking fights or storming out the house, these are, he says, all a result of guilt.
Likewise, your partner finding endless excuses for not coming home on time or needing to go out unexpectedly should also be a big red flag.
If these tell-tale signs aren’t enough to expose your cheating spouse though, King says it might be time to bring in a professional who can catch your partner in the act on film using forensic tools, hidden cameras and even night vision equipment.
Or some people use a honey trapper - a decoy that’s sent to tempt your other half and see what happens next, using this method could catch out a potentially unfaithful partner.
But it’s not King’s preferred option.
“People have quite unrealistic expectations of how it [honey trapping] works,' he said.
“If clients want the service I try to talk them into surveillance as a preferred option as it is going to give them the same answers.
“I'm not saying it's morally wrong, but it's not my preferred direction.”
Women are happier being single than men are, because being in a relationship is harder work for women, new research suggests.
According to a study by data analysts Mintel, 61 per cent of single women are happy being single, versus 49 per cent of single men.
The survey also found that 75 per cent of single women have not actively looked for a relationship in the last year, compared to 65 per cent of single men.
And the proposed reason for this is that for women, being in a heterosexual relationship is actually a lot of hard work, and generally requires more effort and labour than for men.
“There’s evidence that women spend longer on domestic tasks than men and I think they also do more emotional work - so they still do more housework and cooking and things as well as more emotional labour,” Professor Emily Grundy, of the University of Essex, told The Telegraph.
From spending more time and money on upkeep of your appearance, doing more chores and putting more effort into resolving problems or arguments, being in a heterosexual relationship typically involves a lot of effort for a woman.
What’s more, women are simply happier being single than men are. We’re better at socialising by ourselves and are more likely to have close friends we feel we can turn to in times of need.
“Women tend to be better at having alternative social networks and other confidantes whereas men tend to rely quite heavily on their wives for that and have fewer other social ties,” Dr Grundy explains.
“Certainly there’s a common finding from a lot of studies that women who don’t have a partner tend to do more social activities and more friends compared to women with partners whereas with men it’s the reverse - men without a partner tend to do much less of that.
“So it may be that women have a wider range of alternatives,” she said.
There’s also the fact that the stigma of being a single woman is gradually changing.
The concept of spinsters and bachelors is on the way out, and society is finally realising that yes, many single women aren’t in relationships because they’re actually happy being independent, doing whatever they want with their time, and they don’t actually need anyone else.
Relationship expert, Solomon Buchi Bartholomew shared these beautiful photos on Facebook to inspire those with low-self esteem, he wrote;
Always remember that you’re someone’s choice; just the way you are, without editing or recreation. You’re everything someone needs, and your flaws will be beautiful to them. Never for a moment regret how you look, or the natural features you came with. People will make jest of your big nose, small ear, short nature, fat body, but believe me when I say your flaws beautify you. To feel bad about them is to feel bad about your selling point. Cool. Some folks don’t like it. But there’s someone who’d die for you for just the same reason others left you. Build your esteem with your own words of value. You’re beautiful. Deserving of love. Enough. And someone’s choice. It’s okay if they reject you. Someone’s praying to have you.
Despite the many romantic attributes that could be said of men in Nigeria, women still hold a contrary account about them. Predominant among the contrary views women hold against men here is that no matter how romantic they are, getting them to the altar for marriage could be very challenging.
So, what are those factors that scare Nigerian men away from marriage? We have tried to compile some reasons that make most men feel jittery to converse on ‘Marriage’ as topic, feel free to add yours if not in our list.
1. No wife materials
Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to ladies not being in quantifiable distribution among men, what they are complaining about is that most ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes that will qualify them for the lifetime commitment called marriage. If this is the case, time of quality search can help heal the wound of such man.
2.They get sex freely without marriage than in time past
Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole. But, this might not be the fault of women as promiscuity is not an exclusive act than can be carried out without the consent of either gender.
3.Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. As of last year, the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N500,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost. For most people, especially in this economy, that’s a lot of money. But all we advise is that men should try and cut their coat according to their material
4.In search of a ‘working class’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.
There is a common belief among some men that marriage puts an end to one’s freedom. Single men today are much more proud about not being dependent and being on their own. They fear marriage because they will become answerable for every action they take to their spouse. That is one big responsibility some men are not ready to take up.
6.Career
One of the predominant question most men will secretly ask themselves before making the decision to marry are, Will my partner make agitated about me being in office for long hours? Will he or she understand my love for my career? These are cogent questions and answering these questions could slow the decisive actions to be taken on marriage plans.
7.Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships. If the expectations are behavioral, the challenge might be little but e are some discouraging situations where parents decide the profession qualifications, properties, etc that must be acquired by the suitor before they can give out their child to him in marriage.
8.Trust issues
Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.
9.Bad Testimonies from Married couple
Generally, most men get intimidated by marriage as a result of the testimonies they hear from those in marriage. Before getting into marriage talks, it is a common thing among men to ask their brothers, friends who are already married on how the social institution is and the testimonies they get are most times discouraging, as such they fear their marriage will be a replica of the testimonies they have gathered.
10.Cultural limitations
Nigeria is a country with diverse culture and The diversity sometimes create challenges for men who are in search of women with similar culture. The good thing though is that those who endeavor to explore inter-cultural relationships get the opportunity to gain an in-depth appreciation of other customs.
Facebook user known as Harriette Danso has taken a swipe at all the girls who have f**kd and only get indomie in return.
The girl who does not look older than 20 posted on the Social Media website that, she f*ck3d for an iphone 6. She received lots of backlash under the post and from observations, someone told her brother about her behavior on Social media, making her to delete the post on Social media.
It’s true she’s not the first girl to agree to f**k someone just to get an iPhone or something else but to have the guts to come and say it loudly on Social media? See Her Post :
Psychologists at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands scientifically investigated the phenomenon to try and work out whether the common rom-com trope is real.
Disappointingly for the romantics amongst us, they concluded that what we often think is love at first sight is in fact more likely strong physical attraction.
Researchers conducted their study on 396 participants, roughly 60 per cent of whom were women, most were heterosexual and the vast majority were young Dutch and German students. Via an online survey, participants were asked questions about their current romantic relationship (if they were in one).
They were then shown pictures of various strangers and asked to rate their attraction to them, noting any feelings of love, including intimacy, passion, commitment and “eros”, which is measured by statements such as: “I feel that the person and I were meant for each other”.
They were also asked whether they felt that they were “experiencing love at first sight.”
Two further studies were conducted which involved speed dating, where participants either spent 90 or 20 minutes getting to know each other. Again, they were asked their feelings for their potential partners.
Taking the results of all the tests into consideration, 32 participants (most of whom were men) described 49 experiences of love at first sight.
However this was strongly linked to finding the other person incredibly physically attractive - with every point increase on the five-point attraction scale, a participant was nine times more likely to report love at first sight.
But at the speed dating events, none of the instances of reported love at first sight was mutual.
“To conclude, our findings suggest that love at first sight reported at actual first sight resembles neither passionate love nor love more generally,” the researchers said.
They believe that what we think is love at first sight is in fact “a strong initial attraction that some label as ‘love at first sight’ – either retrospectively or in the moment of first sight.”
Interestingly, the participants who were in a relationship at the time of the study and believed they’d fallen in love with their partners at first sight reported higher levels of passion in their relationship than those who didn’t say they fell in love at first sight.
However it’s worth pointing out that all the situations in the study were contrived and not realistic.
With so many people swearing they’ve experienced love at first sight, this study may not put an end to hopeless romanticism. After all, if it happened for Harry and
1. She’s never approved of any girl you’ve ever dated. EVER. There’s always something wrong with the girl you’re dating. Her hair is too blonde, her smile is too white, her laugh is too obnoxious, her career is not a career at all. When you think your girlfriend is absolute perfection, your girl best friend who secretly loves you, will find something wrong with her.
2. She tells your girlfriend all of your dirty little secrets. She wants your girlfriend to know everything about you, she tells her the bad and the ugly, and leaves out the good. That threesome you had in college, your girlfriend will definitely hear about it from the girl best friend who loves you.
3. She tries to make your girlfriend look bad. This could apply both physically and mentally. If she tries to cut your girlfriend’s hair, DON’T let her. If she says she’s just giving her a trim, and she asks to borrow your razor, it’s going to be more than a couple of inches. Your best friend who’s actually in love with you attempts to sabotage your girlfriend’s appearance whenever she has the chance.
4. She talks shit about you to your current girlfriend. Your girlfriend knows that you two are best friends, which is why she finds it weird that she speaks of you so poorly. Your girl best friend who secretly wants to be more, talks bad about you to your girlfriend because she wants your girlfriend to think you’re actually a terrible person. She’ll make fun of your quirks, insult you relentlessly, and point out all of your flaws. Whether she knows she’s doing it or not, it’s an act of secret love and sabotage.
5. When it doesn’t work out with your girlfriend she pretends to feel bad. ‘Awe your relationship is over?! I’m so sorry!’ Deep down her heart is jumping with joy. 6. Or she outright says, ‘that girl was completely wrong for you anyway.’ Depending on your girl best friend’s personality, her authentic sympathy after your breakups may vary. 7. Whenever anyone says your name she gets a girlish grin. Remember when you were in 7th grade and you’d write your crush’s name all over your notebook? Remember the grin you had on your face while doing so? That’s the grin your girl best friend gets when other people talk about you. It’s because she’s in love with you, sometimes not so discreetly.
8. She hasn’t dated anyone in quite a while. When she tells you she’s going through a dry spell, she means she hasn’t dated anyone because she’s holding out for you. She’s probably hooked up with a few fuckboys here and there, but only to distract herself from the fact that she’s in love with you.
9. She tries to have sleepovers with you. When she has one too many drinks and can’t make her way home, she pretends like it happened spontaneously. She planned that. Those tequila shots were no accident, and they’re not the only thing she’s trying to lick, shot, and suck.
10. She becomes interested in everything you’re interested in. Before she met you she was listening to Carrie Underwood, but when she learned your love for EDM and attending raves, she bought a pacifier, a hula hoop, and put a dread lock in her hair.
11. She brings you to weddings as her plus one. She does this so that when you attend the wedding everyone asks, ‘Oh are you two dating?’ And while you both awkwardly respond, she’s hoping the amount of times people ask will get you thinking about it actually happening.
12. Her parents love you. Her parents tell her she should marry you, and her family talks about how you two will end up together. Trust me, it happens.
13. Her brother loves you. Even her siblings love you. You’re basically part of the family.
14. She brings you on family vacations. Her parents want to raise the potential of you two getting together, so they’re willing to share their condo in Puerto Rico with you for a week. You fully take advantage of the opportunity, and if you don’t you should.
15. She gets you really meaningful birthday gifts. She doesn’t buy you a t-shirt or a hat, she doesn’t buy you a new pair of shoes. She gets you a gift that means more, a gift that says, ‘I love you,’ because she does
Knowing you're in love feels different for everyone. Some have been in love often and know the feeling well, and others may be not so sure if it's love or just a deep infatuation.
Luckily, your body has some pretty sneaky ways of tipping you off to whether these feelings for your partner are more than just a passing phase. Keep an eye out for these tell-tale signs the next time you catch yourself wondering if you're actually in love.
If your partner has ever caught you staring at them lovingly, it could be a sign that you're head over heels. Eye contact means that you're fixated on something, so if you find that your eyes are fixed on your partner, you may just be falling in love.
Studies have also found that couples who lock eyes report feeling a stronger romantic connection than those who don't. It goes the other way too: when a study had strangers lock eyes for minutes at a time, they reported romantic feeling towards each other.
You feel like you're high.
It's completely normal to feel out of your mind when falling for someone.
A study from the Kinsey Institute found that the brain of a person falling in love looks the same as the brain of a person who has taken cocaine. You can thank dopamine, which is released in both instances, for that feeling.
This is a good explanation for why people in new relationships can act absolutely nonsensically.
You always think about them.
If you love someone, you may feel like you can't get them off of your mind. That's because your brain releases phenylethylamine, aka the “love drug” when you fall in love with someone. This hormone creates the feeling of infatuation with your partner.
You may be familiar with the feeling because phenylethylamine is also found in chocolate, which may explain why you can't stop after just one square.
You want them to be happy.
Love is an equal partnership, but you'll find someone's happiness becomes really important to you when you're falling for them.
So-called “compassionate love” can be one of the biggest signs of a healthy relationship, according to research. This means that you're willing to go out of your way to make your partner's life easier and happier.
If you find yourself going out of your way to keep your partner dry when walking in the rain or making them breakfast on a busy weekday morning, it's a sign you've got it bad.
You've been stressed lately.
Although love is often associated with warm and fuzzy feelings, it can also be a huge source of stress. Being in love often causes your brain to release the stress hormone cortisol, which can lead you to feel the heat.
So if you've noticed your patience is being tested a little more than normal or you're kind of freaking out, you may not need to carry a stress ball just yet; you may just be in love.
You don't feel pain as strongly.
Falling for someone might be painful, but if you've noticed that literally falling doesn't bother you as much anymore, it could be a big sign you're in love.
A study conducted by the Stanford University School of Medicine had participants stare at a photo of someone they loved and found that act could reduce moderate pain by up to 40%, and reduced severe pain by up to 15%.
So if you're getting a tattoo, you may want to keep a photo of your partner handy. Just in case.
You're trying new things.
Everyone wants to impress their date in the beginning of their relationships, but if you find yourself consistently trying new things that your partner enjoys, you may have been bitten by the love bug.
In fact, a study found that people who have claimed to be in love often had varied interest and personality traits after those relationships. So even if you hate that square-dancing class you're going to with your partner, it could have a positive effect on your personality.
Your heart rate synchronizes with theirs.
Your heart may skip a beat when you think about the one you love, but a study showed that you may also be beating in time with each other. A study conducted by the University of California, Davis, suggests that couples' hearts begin to beat at the same rate when they fall in love.
Although you may not be able to tell if this has happened without a few stethoscopes, feeling a deep connection to your partner is a good a sign as any that you're in love.
You're OK with the gross stuff.
If you're a notorious germaphobe and totally cool kissing your partner after just watching them pick their nose, you might just be in love. In fact, a study by the University of Groningen in the Netherlands found that feelings of sexual arousal can override feelings of being grossed out.
So that means if you're super attracted to your partner, you may just let them double dip. That's love, baby.
You get sweatier.
If you're nauseous and sweaty, you either have a bad stomach bug or are falling in love. A study found that falling in love can cause you to feel sick and display physical symptoms similar to that of anxiety or stress, like sweat.
Although this feeling will probably pass once you really get comfortable with your partner, it may be a good idea to carry around an extra hanky, just to be safe.
You love their quirks
If you really get to know a person, chances are you'll pick on the little things that make them uniquely them. And if you're in love with them, these are probably some of the things that attract you most about them.
A study found that small quirks can actually make a person fall deeper in love with someone rather than just physical attributes because people have unique preferences. So although you may have judged your partner a little harshly on first glance, if you find that you're suddenly in awe of their uniqueness, you might be in love.
20-year-old Seun Akintoye’s love for 17-year-old Hannah Osazuwa may have cost him his life after he failed to read the writing on the prophetic wall Update on the Young lady Hannah Osazuwa who stabbed her boyfriend to death in Lagos
The Attack
Hannah Osazuwa was not in the right frame of mind. Perhaps her temper got the better of her or did she actually overreact?
Neighbors had always suspected that she drank too much and might be taking other spiky substances.
Update on the Young lady Hannah Osazuwa who stabbed her boyfriend to death in Lagos Her violent streak had finally brought Seun Akintoye’s life to a halt with one swing of the scissors.
It happened so fast, Seun was still in a state of shock when he pulled the scissors out of his chest and fell to the ground.
Screams of both their friends who were present when it happened brought the neighbors rushing in.
The first respondents remember seeing Seun gasping for air in a pool of his own blood. All these happened on October 16, just 3 days after her birthday.
In The Beginning
Hannah and Seun Akintoye were in love and they did not care about what other people had to say. They thought they knew each other well enough.
Their relationship has been described as toxic and its lethal nature seemed to be what kept them together, but it finally drove them apart.
Hannah lived in one of the popular Face-Me-I-Face-You buildings located inside Gowon Estate in Egbeda.
Her single room was all she could afford and she lived alone. Seun was a regular visitor – everyone knew him as Oko Hannah.
The Amebos in the compound peddled the rumour that she had been disowned by her parents because of her wayward lifestyle.
A source, whose shop is attached to the building where the sad event occurred told said:
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“After we rushed into the room and saw blood on the floor, we used clothes in the house to soak the blood that was coming out of his body, before trying to rush him to a hospital inside the Gowon Estate. “When we got to the hospital, they refused to collect him, so we took him to the general hospital in Igando, and on our way there he died, before we got to the hospital. He lost so much blood”.
Another source told Bounce News that when the police from the Gowon Estate station came to carry her away, she seemed to be in shock.
She may not have realised what had just happened. The source says she may have been motivated by an overdose of alcohol or banned substances she may have sniffed earlier that day.
Witnesses said a day before his death, Hannah got into the ‘usual’ argument with Seun, whom she stabbed on the leg with a knife.
Blinded By Love?
If the warnings of his friends were not enough to make him end his relationship with her, the pain he must have felt from the wound on his leg should have alerted him of impending danger.
The scissors that became the weapon of death was part of the requirements that she was asked to bring along for her sewing classes. A source said that when he came with his friend to see her that faithful day, she was intoxicated as early as 8am.
Seun was upset by her appearance and told her how embarrassed he felt that she was so unstable even before sunrise.
An argument broke out. Seun tried to pull her into the room and make her calm but she rushed in and grabbed a scissors with which she attacked him.
The Amebos in the compound also claim that Hannah was linked to the accidental death of another deceased person even before she met Seun.
She allegedly escaped the long arm of the law because her father is a senior officer in one of the country’s security outfits.
The Lagos state Police Public Relations Officer (PPRO), ASP Olarinde Famous-Cole said that Hannah’s case was still under investigation at the homicide section of the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department in Yaba.
Seun’s love came at a cost. Two days before he died he wrote on Facebook ‘Sometimes a man needs to die to live again’.
Could he see the future? Was he too deep in love to separate emotions and common sense?
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