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VIRGIN AGAIN |
Virginity is such a loaded word a virgin is someone who has never had sex. But "sex" is defined differently by different people. A lot of people think that women and men lose their virginity the first time they have penis-in-vagina intercourse (vaginal sex). But this definition is really limited because it leaves lots of people and other types of sex out of the picture.
According to Durex, the average age at which women have intercourse is 18 years, while it’s 17.4 years for the guys. the definition of virginity is complicated. Some people don't even care about it, it needs proper definition, a lady can actually lose her virginity without engaging in sexual intercourse.
Losing one’s virginity is a physical act, whether or not a woman notices any blood from her vagina. The reason why some women bleed when they first have sex is because a thin layer of tissue called the hymen covers part of a woman’s vaginal entrance. It is believed when a woman has sex, the hymen tears and she may begin to bleed a bit. However, some women don’t have much of this tissue to begin with, or have tissue that has been torn from using tampons, from masturbation, or from being fingered by a partner. This is why looking for blood on the sheet or going to the doctor is a poor way of determining whether or not a woman is a virgin, but here we are talking about abstinence from sexual intercourse But imagine if you could take your virginity back and give it to the man you were going to marry: Would you?
The word born-again virginity is not uncommon and it’s the claim that after having sex, a person can be restored to virginity by a spiritual renewal, vowing sexual purity until marriage and asking God for forgiveness. Some women have taken the idea of born-again virginity so far that they actually have had surgery to physically restore themselves to a “virgin” physical-sexual state. According to Dictionary.com: “Revirginization or born-again virginity is the process of a sexually active person attempting to regain virgin status by abstaining from sexual relations, especially during the time just before marriage; also called secondary virginity. People often become born-again virgins for religious reasons and to appease their families. Though they have had sex before, they vow to abstain from intercourse until marriage.
'Born-again virgin' is a term that is sometimes coined to talk about reclaiming one's virginity (as a religious good) after one has 'technically' lost it, i.e., after one has had experience of sexual intercourse," Dickey Young said. "Although men sometimes claim born-again virginity, too, it is largely young women who make such claims." many women take the born-again virgin route out of shame."Shame is certainly a factor and a tool that religions use to regulate sexual behavior, "Where virginity is a value, losing virginity can lead to shame. Reclaiming virginity can allow one to hold one's head up with pride in the community.
Women in some cultures might try to become born-again virgins for safety reasons, as certain cultures punish premarital sex by death. "Certainly other cultures and forms of religion have used sanctions (sometimes very dangerous to women) to enforce virginity. The more dangerous the sanction, the less likely a woman would be to admit she has had premarital sex. Some even go far by seeing a gynecologist to get a new hymen after losing their virginity some of them want to do it for their “honor” but their lives could also depend on it as some cultures do put women into fears of losing their lives thereby meeting a gynecologist could be a life-saving procedure. They are afraid they will be killed by the youngest member of their family, or the youngest member of the groom’s family. “As part of thir cultural belief.
But some reject the phrases “born again virgin” and “revirginization” because they cheapen the struggles of those who have remained virgins into their 40s and older. They don’t have any special respect for someone who slept around in their teen years and 20s but who then abstained for a few years until they got married at 25 or 29. They don’t see these people as sexual heroes. They are not. But nonetheless we have a merciful God, and it wont be bad turning to him and vowing not to fall prey of pre-marital sex again and we should have the following thoughts at the back of our mind
God has forgiven you.
When you ask for forgiveness and you are sincere about it God will forgive us , He then choose to no longer remember the awful things we have done in the past that includes losing virginity before marriage. I tell you, there is absolutely positively no doubt that God will forgive you for having sex before marriage. God's love for you cannot be shaken because of your past mistakes.
Now forgive yourself
Even though our sins are no longer counted against us, they are still very real and carry with them the earthly consequences we have to face every day. Once an act is done, it's done. Therefore, unfortunately, it isn't really possible to say that you are a born-again virgin. Once a bone is broken, it cannot be unbroken—only healed. But the memory will always be there and, often, the pain that goes with it. fears that God won't forgive us for this sin usually stem from the guilty feelings that come with having had premarital sex and regretting it. But as I said, the power of God's forgiveness is crazy powerful. It may be easy to understand that fact in your head, but why does the heart not agree? Why do we still agonize about it? Because we can't forgive ourselves. Our emotions may trample us, which results in feeling like we're too bad to be forgiven. There are a few reasons why this happens.
What now?
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