Adulterers earn an average of £52,000 a year and are more likely to be male, a new study has found.
According to data collected by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people, the number of city professionals looking for illicit love online has risen by 8 per cent year-on-year.
Their research also found that almost half (45 per cent) of their participating members have had an affair with someone they work with.
The website conducted a series of surveys on 600 of its members and found that a small number (one per cent) earn more than £1m per annum.
In terms of how much time the respondents spend working, the study found that 29 per cent work 60-hour weeks, 34 per cent work 40-hour weeks and a surprising 20 per cent work up to 80-hour weeks.
The average earnings of £52,000 per annum is almost double the national average of £27,000.
The site's data also revealed that 60,000 of their members are financial professionals and 65 per cent of them are men.
“Successful people are born workaholics,” explains the site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant.
“They live and breathe their careers, work incredibly long hours, and value their career above all else. That means that relationships with loved ones are at a premium.
"But, they're still human. You still want a physical relationship, but coming home late to find your partner already asleep isn't ideal, so a relationship with a colleague ensues.”
Grant claims that the reason affairs appeal to the site’s users is that they often come without the emotional consequences of a traditional relationship.
“It's something that can be kept purely physical,” he said.
"It's flexible, ideal, and it's no surprise to see this demographic flood sites like Illicit Encounters."
Psychologists at the University of Groningen in the Netherlands scientifically investigated the phenomenon to try and work out whether the common rom-com trope is real.
Disappointingly for the romantics amongst us, they concluded that what we often think is love at first sight is in fact more likely strong physical attraction.
Researchers conducted their study on 396 participants, roughly 60 per cent of whom were women, most were heterosexual and the vast majority were young Dutch and German students. Via an online survey, participants were asked questions about their current romantic relationship (if they were in one).
They were then shown pictures of various strangers and asked to rate their attraction to them, noting any feelings of love, including intimacy, passion, commitment and “eros”, which is measured by statements such as: “I feel that the person and I were meant for each other”.
They were also asked whether they felt that they were “experiencing love at first sight.”
Two further studies were conducted which involved speed dating, where participants either spent 90 or 20 minutes getting to know each other. Again, they were asked their feelings for their potential partners.
Taking the results of all the tests into consideration, 32 participants (most of whom were men) described 49 experiences of love at first sight.
However this was strongly linked to finding the other person incredibly physically attractive - with every point increase on the five-point attraction scale, a participant was nine times more likely to report love at first sight.
But at the speed dating events, none of the instances of reported love at first sight was mutual.
“To conclude, our findings suggest that love at first sight reported at actual first sight resembles neither passionate love nor love more generally,” the researchers said.
They believe that what we think is love at first sight is in fact “a strong initial attraction that some label as ‘love at first sight’ – either retrospectively or in the moment of first sight.”
Interestingly, the participants who were in a relationship at the time of the study and believed they’d fallen in love with their partners at first sight reported higher levels of passion in their relationship than those who didn’t say they fell in love at first sight.
However it’s worth pointing out that all the situations in the study were contrived and not realistic.
With so many people swearing they’ve experienced love at first sight, this study may not put an end to hopeless romanticism. After all, if it happened for Harry and
The act of pleasuring oneself is one topic, which has always been questioned by the society at large, but in reality it offers a number of benefits. Masturbation refers to the act of inducing sexual arousal and deriving pleasure from it by stimulating the genitals. This may be done using your own hands, sex toys, fingers or grouping together the effect of these. Mutual masturbation among partners is also a fairly common phenomenon. There are varied opinions on the topic, whether actual sexual penetration gives more pleasure or masturbation. Read on to find out what effect each has on your body and which one is more preferred by most people.
Health benefits: Studies reveal that engaging in sexual intercourse is associated with a lot of health benefits like controlling your blood pressure level, keeping the prostrate and heart healthy for men, acting as a pain reliever etc. Masturbating may not affect your health in the way sex does, but it certainly has a different set of benefits, which includes preventing cancer, boosting immunity, reducing risks of premature ejaculation etc.
Associated risks: Sexual intercourse often comes with various risks like STDs, if your partner is infected or chance of an unwanted conception, if unsafe sex is practised. Masturbation has comparatively lower health risks than sex, though it is not entirely free from drawbacks. You can get skin irritations and in rare cases, even penile fractures due to excessive masturbation.
Effect on relationship: The quality and frequency of the sexual intercourse you have with your partner has a direct effect on your relationship. However, masturbation mostly does not involve your partner's participation and so doesn't visibly have a reflection on your relationship.
Role in knowing your sexual preferences: In case of both men and women, masturbation helps people to identify their sexual preferences and things which give them greater pleasure. This usually leads to a more satisfying sex life and is considered to be easier than figuring out what pleases you while having sex.
Even after considering the above points, which one (either sex or masturbation) gives you more pleasure, completely depends on your personal preferences. If you wish to discuss about any specific sexual problem, you can consult a specialized sexologist and
Today’s job market has many couples well aware of the strain unemployment can put on a relationship. Constant stress can cause fights, break up an otherwise healthy relationship, and really put “for better or worse” to the test.
Often, coping with this anxiety and pressure can be just as taxing for the employed spouse as it is for the one who is out of work.
But this doesn’t have to be the case. Instead of letting unemployment destroy your relationship, allow it to strengthen your bond as a couple. We show you how to cope:
Dealing with Emotions
It’s not unusual for your unemployed spouse to feel a range of emotions from lack of confidence to identity loss to of financial worry. As the employed half of the relationship, you must remain understanding and compassionate. Joblessness can create a sense of hopelessness, feelings of displacement, and depression due to days and months of continued rejection.
On the other hand, it’s also important that the unemployed member of the relationship be aware that the strain of unemployment doesn’t just affect them, but you as well. You may feel a combination of sympathy and anger towards your jobless partner. But as these emotions might seem overwhelming and at times confusing, you owe it to your spouse to be both a motivational cheerleader and a listening ear when needed.
Treating Unemployment as Temporary
Both you and your spouse must exercise an attitude that treats unemployment as temporary. Rejection, while difficult, is inevitable during this time. It’s important to keep in mind that the more jobs applied to, the more employment opportunities are created. Most times, just being an active job hunter (or support to a job hunter) can help combat feeling of dejection and unhappiness.
Feeling Thoughts of Guilt
At this time, it can be easy to slip into feelings of guilt over being employed; you have what your significant other desperately wants. But don’t let this be a cause for self-sabotage. You should feel lucky that you can provide for your significant other monetarily and emotionally during this time.
Managing Feelings of Jealously
The most contaminating emotion for a couple coping with unemployment is resentment. At times the jobless spouse may feel jealous because they live so close to someone who has what they want. Your workday could become a daily reminder of what they don’t have. If this is the case in your relationship, you must make communication your main priority. It might be painful to be told that your employment elicits bitterness from your spouse, but talking through these thoughts can help both sides better understand each other’s emotions.
Promoting Reminders of Importance
An unemployed person often feels embarrassed about being out of work, even though their joblessness is in no way connected to their personal failure. Remind your significant other that they are a vital part of your life and that you fell in love with a person — not a career.
Oftentimes, it might also help to do this in a less obvious fashion. For example, in addition to telling your spouse they’re great, ask them to do you a favor and make them feel valuable. Need an errand run? Something fixed around the house? Just ask! Confidence and self-respect are a vital part of life and, unfortunately, times of continued joblessness can damage these character traits. Preserving your significant other’s sense of worth is a fundamental piece of the job procurement puzzle.
Offering Help
This can come in the form of searching for a job, proofreading a resume, brainstorming good characteristics for a cover letter, or even just keeping the lines of communication open by listening to feelings, concerns and general discontent. Work as a couple to search job listings, network, and build a group of contacts.
1. She’s never approved of any girl you’ve ever dated. EVER. There’s always something wrong with the girl you’re dating. Her hair is too blonde, her smile is too white, her laugh is too obnoxious, her career is not a career at all. When you think your girlfriend is absolute perfection, your girl best friend who secretly loves you, will find something wrong with her.
2. She tells your girlfriend all of your dirty little secrets. She wants your girlfriend to know everything about you, she tells her the bad and the ugly, and leaves out the good. That threesome you had in college, your girlfriend will definitely hear about it from the girl best friend who loves you.
3. She tries to make your girlfriend look bad. This could apply both physically and mentally. If she tries to cut your girlfriend’s hair, DON’T let her. If she says she’s just giving her a trim, and she asks to borrow your razor, it’s going to be more than a couple of inches. Your best friend who’s actually in love with you attempts to sabotage your girlfriend’s appearance whenever she has the chance.
4. She talks shit about you to your current girlfriend. Your girlfriend knows that you two are best friends, which is why she finds it weird that she speaks of you so poorly. Your girl best friend who secretly wants to be more, talks bad about you to your girlfriend because she wants your girlfriend to think you’re actually a terrible person. She’ll make fun of your quirks, insult you relentlessly, and point out all of your flaws. Whether she knows she’s doing it or not, it’s an act of secret love and sabotage.
5. When it doesn’t work out with your girlfriend she pretends to feel bad. ‘Awe your relationship is over?! I’m so sorry!’ Deep down her heart is jumping with joy. 6. Or she outright says, ‘that girl was completely wrong for you anyway.’ Depending on your girl best friend’s personality, her authentic sympathy after your breakups may vary. 7. Whenever anyone says your name she gets a girlish grin. Remember when you were in 7th grade and you’d write your crush’s name all over your notebook? Remember the grin you had on your face while doing so? That’s the grin your girl best friend gets when other people talk about you. It’s because she’s in love with you, sometimes not so discreetly.
8. She hasn’t dated anyone in quite a while. When she tells you she’s going through a dry spell, she means she hasn’t dated anyone because she’s holding out for you. She’s probably hooked up with a few fuckboys here and there, but only to distract herself from the fact that she’s in love with you.
9. She tries to have sleepovers with you. When she has one too many drinks and can’t make her way home, she pretends like it happened spontaneously. She planned that. Those tequila shots were no accident, and they’re not the only thing she’s trying to lick, shot, and suck.
10. She becomes interested in everything you’re interested in. Before she met you she was listening to Carrie Underwood, but when she learned your love for EDM and attending raves, she bought a pacifier, a hula hoop, and put a dread lock in her hair.
11. She brings you to weddings as her plus one. She does this so that when you attend the wedding everyone asks, ‘Oh are you two dating?’ And while you both awkwardly respond, she’s hoping the amount of times people ask will get you thinking about it actually happening.
12. Her parents love you. Her parents tell her she should marry you, and her family talks about how you two will end up together. Trust me, it happens.
13. Her brother loves you. Even her siblings love you. You’re basically part of the family.
14. She brings you on family vacations. Her parents want to raise the potential of you two getting together, so they’re willing to share their condo in Puerto Rico with you for a week. You fully take advantage of the opportunity, and if you don’t you should.
15. She gets you really meaningful birthday gifts. She doesn’t buy you a t-shirt or a hat, she doesn’t buy you a new pair of shoes. She gets you a gift that means more, a gift that says, ‘I love you,’ because she does
Knowing you're in love feels different for everyone. Some have been in love often and know the feeling well, and others may be not so sure if it's love or just a deep infatuation.
Luckily, your body has some pretty sneaky ways of tipping you off to whether these feelings for your partner are more than just a passing phase. Keep an eye out for these tell-tale signs the next time you catch yourself wondering if you're actually in love.
If your partner has ever caught you staring at them lovingly, it could be a sign that you're head over heels. Eye contact means that you're fixated on something, so if you find that your eyes are fixed on your partner, you may just be falling in love.
Studies have also found that couples who lock eyes report feeling a stronger romantic connection than those who don't. It goes the other way too: when a study had strangers lock eyes for minutes at a time, they reported romantic feeling towards each other.
You feel like you're high.
It's completely normal to feel out of your mind when falling for someone.
A study from the Kinsey Institute found that the brain of a person falling in love looks the same as the brain of a person who has taken cocaine. You can thank dopamine, which is released in both instances, for that feeling.
This is a good explanation for why people in new relationships can act absolutely nonsensically.
You always think about them.
If you love someone, you may feel like you can't get them off of your mind. That's because your brain releases phenylethylamine, aka the “love drug” when you fall in love with someone. This hormone creates the feeling of infatuation with your partner.
You may be familiar with the feeling because phenylethylamine is also found in chocolate, which may explain why you can't stop after just one square.
You want them to be happy.
Love is an equal partnership, but you'll find someone's happiness becomes really important to you when you're falling for them.
So-called “compassionate love” can be one of the biggest signs of a healthy relationship, according to research. This means that you're willing to go out of your way to make your partner's life easier and happier.
If you find yourself going out of your way to keep your partner dry when walking in the rain or making them breakfast on a busy weekday morning, it's a sign you've got it bad.
You've been stressed lately.
Although love is often associated with warm and fuzzy feelings, it can also be a huge source of stress. Being in love often causes your brain to release the stress hormone cortisol, which can lead you to feel the heat.
So if you've noticed your patience is being tested a little more than normal or you're kind of freaking out, you may not need to carry a stress ball just yet; you may just be in love.
You don't feel pain as strongly.
Falling for someone might be painful, but if you've noticed that literally falling doesn't bother you as much anymore, it could be a big sign you're in love.
A study conducted by the Stanford University School of Medicine had participants stare at a photo of someone they loved and found that act could reduce moderate pain by up to 40%, and reduced severe pain by up to 15%.
So if you're getting a tattoo, you may want to keep a photo of your partner handy. Just in case.
You're trying new things.
Everyone wants to impress their date in the beginning of their relationships, but if you find yourself consistently trying new things that your partner enjoys, you may have been bitten by the love bug.
In fact, a study found that people who have claimed to be in love often had varied interest and personality traits after those relationships. So even if you hate that square-dancing class you're going to with your partner, it could have a positive effect on your personality.
Your heart rate synchronizes with theirs.
Your heart may skip a beat when you think about the one you love, but a study showed that you may also be beating in time with each other. A study conducted by the University of California, Davis, suggests that couples' hearts begin to beat at the same rate when they fall in love.
Although you may not be able to tell if this has happened without a few stethoscopes, feeling a deep connection to your partner is a good a sign as any that you're in love.
You're OK with the gross stuff.
If you're a notorious germaphobe and totally cool kissing your partner after just watching them pick their nose, you might just be in love. In fact, a study by the University of Groningen in the Netherlands found that feelings of sexual arousal can override feelings of being grossed out.
So that means if you're super attracted to your partner, you may just let them double dip. That's love, baby.
You get sweatier.
If you're nauseous and sweaty, you either have a bad stomach bug or are falling in love. A study found that falling in love can cause you to feel sick and display physical symptoms similar to that of anxiety or stress, like sweat.
Although this feeling will probably pass once you really get comfortable with your partner, it may be a good idea to carry around an extra hanky, just to be safe.
You love their quirks
If you really get to know a person, chances are you'll pick on the little things that make them uniquely them. And if you're in love with them, these are probably some of the things that attract you most about them.
A study found that small quirks can actually make a person fall deeper in love with someone rather than just physical attributes because people have unique preferences. So although you may have judged your partner a little harshly on first glance, if you find that you're suddenly in awe of their uniqueness, you might be in love.
You probably wouldn’t go up to a stranger in a nightclub, tap them on the shoulder and say “hey, mind if I borrow your toothbrush?” because that would be objectively weird and disgusting.
So, how come when we fancy someone we’re more than happy to lick the insides of their mouth - AKA kissing with tongues - even though the idea is sickening when you describe it literally.
It all comes down to our lingering evolutionary urge to sniff out a genetically compatible mate, although nowadays a person's genetics isn't the only thing that draws us to them (otherwise Tinder and hook-ups wouldn't exist).
Still, people love a good snog in almost every culture in the world, and those which don't get up close by sniffing or smelling instead, explains Dr Sarah Johns, an expert in human reproduction and evolutionary psychology at the University of Kent.
“Kissing - like touching and smelling - is an emotion-driven act that allows us to identify the most compatible and ‘evolutionary advantageous’ partner," adds Fulvio Fulvio D'Acquisto, professor of immunology at Roehampton University.
“Humans don't have strong olfactory skills and kissing allows you to smell and taste a person and see if you have different immune responses as we tend to feel more attracted to someone with a different immune response,” explains Dr Johns. That makes a couple more likely to produce a child better equipped to fight infectious disease, which was pretty important before modern medicine and the advent of vaccines and antibiotics.
"The major histocompatibility complex is detectable in body odour, so by kissing and tasting someone it gives the opportunity to assess how similar or different that individual is to you biochemically," she adds.
"From an immunological perspective, this has the advantage of ‘favouring’ the reproduction of individuals that carry very little risk of incompatibility - and hence reducing the risk of miscarriages - ultimately supporting the survival of the species,” says Professor D'Acquisto.
To allow us to explore another person’s genes before making babies with them, the body suspends the feeling of disgust and sparks the urge to kiss.
“Research shows that sexual arousal lessen feelings of disgust,” says Dr Johns. One such study involved showing people pornography and asking them to do unsavoury tasks like moving tissues into the bin or drinking from a glass of water with a fly floating in it.
“Arousal seems to inhibit a lot of disgust response which makes sense because you share fluids and there is a risk of infection," she explains.
Kissing also comes with the added benefit of exchanging commensal pathogens, according to Professor D’Aquisto.
“These bugs constitute our microbiota: our unique mixture of ‘friendly bacteria’ that define us as unique immunological individual.
“Once again, the enriching of one’s own microbiota through kissing might serve the purpose of sharing, testing and increasing the ability of the kisser to face the threat of harmful bugs and hence favour the propagation of the species.”
And that is why we love kissing with tongues even though it’s gross.
Smacking children is set to become illegal across Britain amid planned law changes in Wales and Scotland. Parents in England will have to consider how to punish their offspring when travelling around the UK.
It comes amid upcoming changes in store for the legal systems in Scotland and Wales which could penalise parents who hit their children.
It is currently legal but both countries plan to outlaw the punishment. In England it is illegal to hit a child - as it is illegal to hit anyone - but parents have a legal defence that allows them to do it.
In a recent speech the Welsh Minister for Children, Huw Irranca-Davies, said physical punishment of children has "no place" in a "modern and progressive" society.
After it became public knowledge that Banky W had slid into Nollywood actress, Adesua Etomi‘s DM and she had opened the door for him – even set a table in there for him – reports emerged that she was initially seeing another actor, Kunle Remi.
From that point on, up until the climax of the former’s union yesterday in Cape Town, South Africa, Kunle Remi has had to contend – quite masterfully I must say – with the “you lost your babe to that shinny head” remarks. I decided to catch up with the dude this morning in my head and below is our conversation.
ME: Hi Kunle. Howdy?
KR: Apart from having to see images upon images of #BAAD2017? I’m fine.
ME: So, was it true that Adesua was dating you before Banky came along?
KR: Yeah.
ME: And she left you for Banky?
KR: Yes.
ME: Why do you think she left?
KR: I don’t know.
ME: Was it because Banky is a bigger boy than you and all you do is form fine boy for Nollywood posters?
KR: You’re mad!
ME: I know. People also say you’re not even a good actor, that’s why you depend on opening your shirt at every opportunity you get. And that’s why she left you for someone who has got everything over you.
KR: What rubbish is this, TNS? Are you a fool?
ME: Yes. Do you know my surname?
KR: Why the phyuk should I care?
ME: Because it answers your last three questions.
KR: I think you should phyuk off and stop your pathetic attempt to troll. That’s why nobody likes TNS.
ME: I also hear, even though you wanted to go for the wedding, you couldn’t afford the aṣọ ẹbi. They said your matter would have been worse than Masterkraft’s if you attended.
KR: Why should I attend? When I am confident their marriage will end soon. Give it two years. Or is that not how celebrity marriages end these days?
ME: Are you asking me? Are you not supposed to be one of them? At least that’s what Instagram tells me.
KR: I am not married so please don’t ask me phyuked up questions.
ME: So, you think Adesua will come back to you?
KR: I am confident she will. I am waiting for her.
Insiders say Actress Funke Akindele Bello has been quiet because she is grieving the loss of the pregnancy we all thanked God for sometime back...........This is so sad!!!
This post is to let all her loved ones know that the actress probably needs some quiet time right now and would definitely appreciate that people stop making comments all over the Internet asking why her stomach is flat..I don't understand how people reason..If someone was showing a bump and then it suddenly disappears and they go quiet,why would you be asking what happened to it?....Use your Brain!
This is definitely a hard time for Funke losing the twins she carried and she needs the love and prayers of her fans,friends and family right now.....She doesn't need all the questionnaire being dropped all over the Internet....Please pray for her and lets keep it moving....
May baby dust fall on your again and again Funke...May your tears be replaced with tears of Joy.
The woman representing South Africa has won the Miss Universe crown. Demi-Leigh Nel-Peters, who recently earned a business management degree and teaches self-defense courses for women, was crowned Sunday during the event at the Planet Hollywood casino-resort on the Las Vegas Strip, Dailymail learnt.
The 22-year-old winner has earned a yearlong salary, a luxury apartment in New York City for the duration of her reign and more prizes.
Her passion for self-defense was reinforced when she was carjacked and held at gunpoint in Johannesburg about a month after winning her title as Miss South Africa.
Steve Harvey returned as the show’s host despite botching the 2015 Miss Universe crowning, naming the wrong contestant as the winner.
In June, about a month after she was crowned Miss South Africa, Nel-Peters was the victim of a vicious armed hijacking attempt in Johannesburg.
Three armed men approached her car as she was driving on Jan Smuts Avenue in Hyde Park. As they pointed their guns at the beauty queen’s car she managed to exit the vehicle and flee.
A Good Samaritan saw her fleeing the scene and drove her to safety, and she escaped unharmed.
According to a statement from the Miss South Africa office, her purse and car were later recovered in the area by a private security company, which are common in the crime-ridden country.
Throughout Sunday’s event, Harvey poked fun at his mishap in 2015, when he declared Miss Colombia the winner, though it was actually Miss Philippines who won.
Harvey told the audience he is ‘grateful for the Oscars,’ referring to the similar best-picture announcement flub at this year’s Academy Awards.
This year’s Miss Universe competition had the most contestants ever, including the first ever representatives of Cambodia, Laos and Nepal. Ninety-two women from around the world participated in the 66-year-old competition.
The Honorable was said to have indirectly insulted his ex-wife who on Sunday, celebrated her 50th birthday and housewarming same day did not receive any celebratory message from her ex-husband. Makinde, who parted ways with his estranged wife seven years ago, posted a picture of his Facebook where he mocked her for not having any man beside her as she adds another year.
His post reads: “Today marks seven years of separation with that bit*h called Bola, she left by 6 a.m, Aregbesola became Governor by 9 a.m and it was also her birthday date…I understand she is celebrating 50 years today and also the opening of a new house in Ikorodu…. She must be preparing to dance but not with a man she can call her husband but just any man. What a life. Many reasons for me to appreciate God…Hon Rotimi Makinde.”
However this post has been deleted from his Facebook profile after he received from his followers on the social media platform. The post was also shared by Veno International magazine publisher on Facebook. Following this outburst, the lawmaker immediately granted an interview with Global Excellence were he denied ever making such a post. He added that his haters would have composed such text.
Makinde said: “The story was meant to portray me in a bad light. It was the figment of the writer’s imagination as I never uttered any destructive word against my former wife or ever wished her evil. My friends know that I am too refined for such. I am happily married to someone who is my angel and I believe the woman in question has also moved on with her life.”
It could be recalled that after separating from his ex-wife, the lawmaker got married to a 23-year-old lady, Oyebanke Oyelami who was then a final year student of political science at the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile Ife, Osun state. The couple has been married for about four years now and have two children together.
Nigerian men are really upping their game as far as relationships are concerned. Gone are the days when African men were referred to as unromantic.
Many Nigerian men have since rewrote that narrative as many of them now device very creative means to show and display their affections for their sweethearts, From staging public proposals to staging their own arrest or kidnap they have found unique and cool ways to show their ‘love’.
In the latest of such grand gestures of love a man identified as Ojay spent millions of naira to rent a billboard just to propose to his girlfriend.
A student killed herself after discovering the man she agreed to marry was already wed and intended to have her as his polygamous second wife, according to reports.
Danara Kaipova, 20, was found hanged soon after finding out her groom-to-be apparently already had a spouse and two children.
Her devastated mum said her daughter had thought she'd found her true love.
Danara was allegedly 'kidnapped' from her college in Kazakhstan this summer by wealthy Birzhan Doshakaev, 29. The act of 'bride-stealing' is a barbaric medieval tradition that continues in Kazakhstan and other areas of the former Soviet Union.
According to Mirror UK,despite being 'stolen', she reportedly told her friends and family she loved him and made clear she was happy to marry him after he took her to his home city, Atyrau, where she met his parents. Her mother Inzhu Kaipova said: "My daughter kept telling me that he had great parents, and that she was happy. I believed her."She had found her "true love" she said.
But the distraught mother added: "Now we know that this man had a wife and two children."He did not say a word about it to our daughter."Danara killed herself when she found out about it."She hanged herself."
She said Doshakaev's family, who reportedly knew about his plans, "humiliated my girl" and that he lied by not telling her that he 'had a wife and children'.
Danara, an A-grade student at her agricultural college, had also told her friends that she was happy after she was apparently kidnapped and taken 325 miles to his city.
She had invited them to her planned wedding. Police have begun a criminal investigation into whether Danara was forced into suicide by the cruel behaviour of the man she loved.
Vieneese and Douglas Stanton originally planned to have a big wedding in April 2018, but
they knew they had to make some changes after getting the heartbreaking news that
Vieneese’s father had been given just a few weeks to live.
“My dad has acute leukemia … [doctors] were constantly giving us negative reports about my dad’s health so my fiancé — who’s now my husband — and I really wanted my dad to be a part of [the wedding],” Stanton tells PEOPLE of her father, who was diagnosed with the disease in February.
“My dad was really excited when we got engaged,” Stanton says. “Then to find out he wouldn’t make it to our original wedding day was sad for us, so we wanted to speed the process up a little bit.”
On Nov. 16, Vieneese, 27, and 30-year-old Douglas, of Richmond, California, wed at the University of California, San Francisco Medical Center, surrounded by friends, family and nurses. Vieneese says the hospital wedding was a total surprise to her father, Preston Rolan, 64.
“My dad didn’t even know we were planning this. I was working alongside the nurses and my bridal party,” she tells PEOPLE, noting that the nurses decorated the hospital, bought a cake and even got Rolan a suit. “I actually was hiding from him in the hospital! He takes walks around the hospital in the morning so they decided to take him for his walk and then I turned the corner on him.”
His reaction was priceless, she says.
“He was completely surprised. He really was about to start crying. He was bragging. He was telling all the nurses, ‘This is my daughter. This is my daughter!’ ” Vieneese tells PEOPLE.
“With the help of his nurses, we were able to actually have the wedding at the hospital so that he could walk me down the aisle. We wanted him to be able to share this experience with us.”
“Itwas amazing. It was beautiful. I was smiling the entire time,” she tells PEOPLE, adding that hospital staff provided a lot of food and even a professional photographer. “I was surprised just like my dad was because. I didn’t know it would be that big.”
vieneese and Rolan have always been close. Rolan moved in with the couple earlier this year when he became ill. Even after Rolan entered the hospital, Vieneese was sure to include him in every key moment of her life, including news that she’s pregnant.
“I’m five months pregnant. It’s a baby girl,” she tells PEOPLE. “When we found out, I took balloons to my dad’s hospital room and kind of did a gender reveal with him. He was so excited.”
Doctor held off putting Rolan into hospice care so he could attend Vieneese’s wedding. But now that the ceremony is over, Vieneese says she’s preparing to say goodbye to her father.
“He’s someone who always gives me wisdom, he is always making sure I make the right choices,” Vieneese says through tears. “I’m definitely going to miss his wisdom over all. He was full of humor, so I will miss laughing with my dad. There’s so much about his personality I will definitely miss.”
