Baale in Lagos crushes wife to death with Jeep

A traditional ruler in Ise Town, Ibeju Lekki, Lagos State, Taibu Ogunbanjo, is currently cooling his heels in police custody for allegedly crushing his wife to death.

The baale runs a block-moulding factory at Folu, a community in Ibeju Lekki.

PUNCH Metro learnt that Taibu and his wife, Rotimi Ogunbanjo, got married three years ago, but the marriage had been fraught with misunderstanding and fights.

On Thursday, December 7, 2017, the couple reportedly had a disagreement. After the altercation, Rotimi was said to have gone to the 

baale’s factory and damaged some blocks on the premises.

Taibu reportedly entered his Toyota Highlander, and was driving out of the premises in anger when he knocked down his wife.

A community leader, who identified himself simply as Akinsipe, said the wife died on the spot, adding that the corpse had been deposited at the Epe General Hospital.

He said, “He (Taibu) is the baale of the community. He and his wife had been having issues since they got married. I did not know what actually happened between them on that day, but I learnt that they had a disagreement in the morning.

“She went to his block factory and destroyed some blocks arranged on the premises. He entered his vehicle angrily and as he was driving out of the premises, the wife tried to stop him. He hit her and she died on the spot.”

Akinsipe stated that the matter was reported at the Akodo Police Station, 

adding that the baale had been arrested.

A police source told our correspondent that the suspect’s family reported at the police station that the death resulted from an accident.

The source said, “The baale and the woman got married three years ago without a child and they had been having disagreements. On that particular day, she destroyed some blocks at the industry. The man became angry and as he was driving out, he crushed her with his vehicle on the factory premises.

“The relations of the suspect have said that it was a case of an accident. But looking at the circumstances surrounding the incident, the accident claim is untenable.

“He could not have lost control of the vehicle on the premises as a result of speeding. There is a limit to the speed the car can go on the premises.”

The Lagos State Police Public Relations Officer, SP Chike Oti, who confirmed Rotimi’s death, said the command would investigate the matter to unravel the motive behind the baale’s action.

He said, “We are investigating the matter to find out what transpired between the man and his wife before the incident happened. They were having family issues, which led the woman to the block industry to destroy things.

“We want to know whether what the man did was a reaction to what his wife did. We believe there is more to the ‘accident’ than meets the eye because there was an altercation between them before the incident occured.”

The PPRO added that the case had been transferred to the Homicide Section of the State Criminal Investigation and Intelligence Department, Yaba.

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My Girlfriend Reject Marriage proposal because i earn 180k Monthly

A Nigerian guy and forum user, Duchez, took to media to share how and why his friend’s girlfriend 

rejected a marriage proposal.

In his words 

"My friend just shared his story with me. I have advised him but I need your thoughts.

He met a lady around March this year and they became friends. He is an Accountant and works with a Federal Government Agency in Abuja. Along the line he asked her out and she insisted he finishes his ICAN before they can start dating. 

Long story short, she later accepted to date him. Probably because he passed all but one of the exams in the Professional stage of ICAN. He recently invested some huge sum of money into a biz deal. He told me it was actually all of his savings and he would become a multi millionaire if the deal works out. 

He decided to test this lady to find out if she will stick with him if the going ever gets tough (as a result of our insistence that the lady isn’t really into him). And so he told her that the deal he was working on had failed and that he has become broke. He said he will like to marry her and try to sustain themselves on his current salary of about 180k pending when things become better but she replied that she can’t marry someone who is earning 180k monthly.

She feels it would make her drop from her standard of living as she wants to live inside the city of Abuja and not in the outskirts like Karu or Kubwa. Mind you, her parents live in one of these places and the guy is not even thinking of living in anywhere beyond these places like Nyanya/Mararaba. 

This guy loves this girl so bad and is a very hardworking guy. He is hoping to get promoted when he completes his ICAN and is even looking at getting a better job in a bigger Government Agency or a Multinational company. He is so distraught at what the lady said. We have advised him to forget about her and move on, but he is considering opening up to the lady that what he said about the deal was just a test in the hope to make her re-consider him. 

Please, were we wrong with our advice? Meanwhile, this guy’s ex loves him like there is no tomorrow and she will gladly marry him even if he was earning 30k monthly but due to family pressure on him to marry a graduate and an Igbo lady, he broke up with her. Me thinks he can still persuade his parents to accept the lady. 

If you were in our shoes, will you advice your friend differently?

Thanks for your comments. The lady earns around 180k but she mentioned that she spends around 300k when going shopping and she is scared she would no longer be able to do that if she marries him as she would have to contribute almost all her salary to maintaining the family."

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Ghanaian LadySaid " I Have Converted Over 3000 Women To Lesbians"

​Janet Ofori,a 45-year old Ghanaian lesbian has made a shocking revelation during an interview.According to her, she has converted over 3,000 women and still counting to Lesbianism.

She made this known while appearing on a program on Adom TV. Ofori said she mastered being a lesbian in Senior High School, and has done a good job satisfying a lot of rich single women since then. She also added that she could sleep with about 10 women in a day.

Ofori mentioned ministers in government and MPs including some radio presenters as her clients.  On it being a sin and evil, she said;

“Were you there, when God created Adam and Eve and you will come and tell me that, God made Adam and Eve to marry? And who says being a lesbian is wrong, show me where it is stated in the bible.”

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Grace Mugabe Is Reportedly Divorcing Robert Mugabe

Former First Lady of Zimbabwe, Grace Mugabe has reportedly filed for divorce from her 93-year-old husband Robert Mugabe after he was ousted as the President, Zimbabwe Today reports.

Grace Mugabe and Robert Mugabe have been married for 21 years. Grace began by working as the secretary of then President Mugabe and when his wife, the former First Lady died, she married the President and immediately became First Lady. She remained First Lady for 21 years until he husband was ousted last month.

Sources close to the Mugabe family confirmed that Grace Mugabe has filed for divorce. The South African born woman has reportedly voiced concerns over her role as the former First Lady of Zimbabwe, claiming that it’s about time she enjoys some peaceful life. She reportedly said she is not prepared to be ridiculed for the years ahead and that her ostracism and her husband’s resignation as the leader of Zimbabwe have gradually grown into a life-threatening headache.

A family source told Zimbabwe Today: “She’s been very upset ever since Mugabe gave up to hand over power to his ousted Vice-president. She wanted a role as a First Lady, not as a woman who acts as subordinate. She is also not prepared to leave her luxurious lifestyle to live in a home of captivity. She thinks that the decor is despicable and beyond repair.”

Judiciary spokesman, Lawrence Brown has confirmed divorce proceedings were in motion and if both parties agree, they could go their separate ways in about a month.

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Bisola reveals secret of success at audition(Big Brother Naija)

Bisola Aiyeola, the second runner-up of the 2017 edition of the Big Brother Naija reality TV show, has revealed the secret for success at the auditions.

In a post on her Instagram Page, Bisola advised her fans interested in the show to be at their best at the auditions and also hope for the best.

She added that she had to audition severally before she was finally selected.

“Hey guys BBNaija is here again and you can be the next big thing. Just bring

 your ‘A’ game to the auditions and hope for the best.

“It’s not about how you dress, what you say or how you pose.

“Just Carry yourself; dress up how you deem fit and go for the audition.

“I wish you the best!”

Big Brother Naija has returned with auditions for the 2018 edition scheduled to hold on the 9th and 10th of December 2017 in six different venues across Nigeria.

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Signs That Your Relationship is Headed for Marriage

If you think there's no sign short of a diamond ring that can point to whether you're headed for marriage or not, think again. we are here to share eight ways you can tell if your relationship will last a lifetime.

1. Your partner isn't afraid to challenge you.

Constantly butting heads could mean you're headed for a breakup. But, if your partner is willing to kindly voice his or her views in order to challenge you to change yours, psychotherapist and relationship expert Rhonda Richards-Smith says you could be headed for marriage. "If your partner is comfortable enough with you to lovingly call you out privately when they feel you are wrong," says Richards-Smith, "chances are you are in the right relationship."

2. You're one another's biggest cheerleaders.

When you're headed for marriage, says licensed marriage and family therapist Marissa Nelson, you're committed to bringing out the best in your partner. "You encourage one another's individual growth and give support to the pursuit of each other's dreams and career aspirations," she says. "If one of you succeeds, you both win, and that level of strength over time can be a telling sign that engagement is on the horizon."

3. You're vulnerable with each other.

Nelson says that the couples who stay together are the ones who can let loose with one another — doing things like wearing no makeup, without pretense. "Your partner sees you at your worst and best, and loves you unconditionally, flaws and all," she says. "You take good care of one another and look out for your partner's wellbeing with thoughtfulness, kindness, and compassion. It's one the main qualities that let people know this person is the right one 

for them."

4. You really care about whether your partner's family likes you.

When you married a person, you also marry his or her family. So, "when things are getting serious in a relationship, you tend to place more weight in what your partner's family thinks of you," says Lori Salkin, matchmaker and dating coach. "I have noticed time and time again that right before couples get engaged, they spend more time with each other's families — and their nerves run high as they hope for their approval or have to respond to disapproval or questions."

5. You trust one another enough to allow some personal space.

Says Richards-Smith, "There's nothing worse than feeling smothered or obligated to track your partner's every move." By allowing your partner time to his or herself to enjoy his or her own hobbies or friends, you're setting yourself up for a successful marriage. "If you are both able to trust one another enough to have your own time, space, and friends, chances are you're on the right track," Richards-Smith explains.

6. You've got each other's back.

"Lean on Me" was a musical hit in part because its lyrics ring true. "Knowing your partner is there for you is vital to knowing that this relationship is for the long haul," says Nelson. "If partners are always responsive through the ups and downs, and feel comfort that this person will go to bat for them no matter what, people feel safe enough to call that person their partner for life."

7. You know your partner's not perfect, but think he or she is perfect for you.

"Having realistic expectations is very important to be able to get through that last mile and get engaged,". Rather than wonder if there is someone better, people who are headed for marriage focus on all the ways their partner is right for them. "There will always be someone more attractive, successful, and so on," she shares. "But what's important is to realize that you are not perfect and this other person may not be either — but together, you are perfect for each other."

8. You make life-decisions together.

Until you tie the knot, you're free to make your own decisions. But couples who include one another in the big ones are almost surely headed for marriage, Nelson says. "These partners plan for the future and think about making life decisions with the unit in mind," she says. "They may devise a plan to pay down student loans and financial debt together, purchase a car in each other's name, or buy a house together. They may have children or begin planning for that next phase in life. You know this relationship is forever because the couple is deeply committed in creating a future of which they can both be proud."

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HOW TO ACTUALLY PROPOSE

When it comes to getting down on one knee, some men find it old fashioned (kind of like asking for her hand from her parents). But if you decide to kneel, you should do it the right way.

“Getting down on one knee is still the custom when proposing to someone, and not doing so might make the moment too casual, or may not make it clear to the intended what is happening, and that this is the moment. The custom is from days when men bent down and kissed women on the hand. It is reverting and respectful, and it is a touch that should never go out of fashion,” Martinez explains.

Once you’re down there, you might worry about what to say. Again, as Martinez notes, it’s really up to the type of person you are and what kind of woman she is, that should inspire your speech. “If you are shy, like my husband, your preference is to plan something small simple and private. If you and your partner are extroverts, you might plan something more elaborate and unique.”

 What to do with that ring Up until the proposal, you should keep it somewhere safe and hidden (and nope, not the sock drawer). You could keep it locked with a key at your desk at work or in a safety deposit box, just to make sure nothing unfortunate happens or she doesn’t go searching and stumble across the prized good. And how about when to hand it to her? When she says ‘yes!’ 

“You show it to her while you ask, but you do not hand or exchange the ring to her until she officially answers with a resounding yes. Do not start to put it on their finger before she has answered the question, this is an exciting, but nerve wracking time. You do not want to add any additional pressure,” Martinez says.

The biggest mistakes you can make when proposing are all about not putting your partner’s happiness first. While lots of people have certain proposal expectations, make sure the one you plan is in line with your partner's wishes and personality. 

What does that imply? Things like: “Having an audience, when this is not in your partner’s nature. Not asking the parents for their blessing, and not subtly finding out your partner’s preferences in the most important piece of jewelry they will wear everyday for the rest of their life are all mistakes that could ruin what would be a very special moment for your future wife,” Martinez says.

Bottom line? Think of her first — and think of how lucky you’ll be to hear that "Yes!"

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How to avoid beign Pregnant Without Using Birth Control

If you are in a relationship and do not want to become pregnant, you may be undecided about your birth control method. If you don’t want to rely on hormonal birth control or barrier methods, you can try fertility awareness. When you know the days you have a high chance of becoming pregnant, you can avoid intercourse on those days. In the fertility awareness method, both the man and woman are responsible for preventing pregnancy together.

How It Works

The only time you can become pregnant is about 24 hours after ovulation. If you use the fertility awareness method, you track your signs of ovulation to pinpoint the time when you could become pregnant. Since sperm can live inside your body up to five days, you must refrain from having sex — or use a barrier method like a condom — in the days leading up to your ovulation. Estimating your ovulation date correctly is the key to making fertility awareness work as a way to prevent pregnancy.

Methods

Track your ovulation using different methods. You could take your basal body temperature every morning, and write it down on a chart. The day after you ovulate, you’ll see a sharp spike in temperature. This can show you a pattern as to which day in your cycle you ovulate. You can also monitor your cervical mucus by sticking your fingers inside your vagina and swiping them around the cervix. If there is a lot of clear mucus that is stretchy, you are more fertile. You can also simply count the days in your cycle or use ovulation test strips, which show a surge in luteinizing hormone about a day or two before you ovulate. Combining more than one of these methods will give you a better picture and can help make this work for you.

Avoiding Pregnancy

If you want to avoid a pregnancy using the fertility awareness method, you need to avoid sex for five days before and three days after ovulation. Ovulating on time is never a sure thing, though, so to account for errors, you may want to add three days to the beginning and end of that estimation. Aside from abstaining from sex, you could also use a barrier method.

Considerations

Fertility awareness is only effective in women who have a regular cycle. If your cycle is irregular, you will never be able to predict the day you ovulate.

Warning

The only method of birth control that is 100 percent effective is abstinence. According to the American Pregnancy Association, fertility awareness can be 90 percent effective if you are following the method correctly. However, typical use involves a larger margin of error. Failure rates of the average user are around 25 percent.

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Make Your Baby a Genius While Inside the Womb

You naturally want your child to grow up to be his best, and preparation for that starts in the womb. While nothing that you do can guarantee that you’ll be dropping him off at Harvard in 18 years, research has indicated that the choices you make while pregnant will affect the type of child that you have. A baby’s brain grows at an enormous rate, and he is aware of what’s going on outside the womb.

 #1

Eat your fruits and vegetables. You might be craving a milkshake or corn chips, but your baby is craving real nutrition. The vitamins that you’ll find in healthy foods can support your baby’s brain development more than junk food.

#2

Take a prenatal yoga class. A mother that’s experiencing negative emotions, like stress, nervousness or anger, can pass these on to her baby. A child who’s more relaxed may have an easier time learning in school. Regular yoga classes not only help you to relax, but they stretch your muscles, making you more comfortable.

#3

Play classical music. You don’t have to buy special earphones to place on your belly. Playing the music as you go about your daily activities can help build neural bridges in your baby’s brain, according to the BBC.

 #4

Take a DHA supplement. Omega-3 fatty acids also encourage brain development. These are present in fish oil, but there is a slight risk of mercury contamination in fish oil. Instead, take a plant-based DHA supplement. Discuss taking any supplements with your health care provider.

#5

Avoid drugs, alcohol and other contaminants. These have proven harmful to the developing brain.

#6

Carry your baby full term. Science Daily reports that babies who are born prematurely do not have the same levels of brain development as babies who are born full-term. Though the baby’s going to come when she’s ready, you can take care to avoid situations that might put you into early labor.

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These red flags could prove that your partner is cheating

You might have suspected them for some time, but how can you tell for sure whether your partner is cheating?

While you might be inclined to check their phone or hack their social media accounts it seems that most deceitful spouses, however sly they may be, unknowingly show hints of their infidelity; you just need to know what to look for.

According to David King, managing director for Lipstick Investigations – an Australian private investigators – there are six signs that could suggest your partner is being unfaithful, and that 80 per cent of time your intuition is right. 

Speaking to the Daily Mail, King revealed that one of the giveaway signs is a strange change in behaviour which typically connects to the way they look. Alas, if your other hald has started sprucing up their hair, dressing smarter or smelling better, they could be up to no good.

Similarly, suspicious mobile phone use such as putting a new password on it or being overly secretive when a message comes through is also a red flag.

While King says he is unable to comment on the psychology of a cheating person, he did reveal that many of his clients report their partner acting more aggressive than usual.

Be it behaving irrationally and picking fights or storming out the house, these are, he says, all a result of guilt.

Likewise, your partner finding endless excuses for not coming home on time or needing to go out unexpectedly should also be a big red flag. 

If these tell-tale signs aren’t enough to expose your cheating spouse though, King says it might be time to bring in a professional who can catch your partner in the act on film using forensic tools, hidden cameras and even night vision equipment.

Or some people use a honey trapper - a decoy that’s sent to tempt your other half and see what happens next, using this method could catch out a potentially unfaithful partner.

But it’s not King’s preferred option. 

“People have quite unrealistic expectations of how it [honey trapping] works,' he said.

“If clients want the service I try to talk them into surveillance as a preferred option as it is going to give them the same answers.

“I'm not saying it's morally wrong, but it's not my preferred direction.”

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WOMEN ARE HAPPIER BEING SINGLE THAN MEN

Women are happier being single than men are, because being in a relationship is harder work for women, new research suggests.

According to a study by data analysts Mintel, 61 per cent of single women are happy being single, versus 49 per cent of single men.

The survey also found that 75 per cent of single women have not actively looked for a relationship in the last year, compared to 65 per cent of single men.

And the proposed reason for this is that for women, being in a heterosexual relationship is actually a lot of hard work, and generally requires more effort and labour than for men.

“There’s evidence that women spend longer on domestic tasks than men and I think they also do more emotional work - so they still do more housework and cooking and things as well as more emotional labour,” Professor Emily Grundy, of the University of Essex, told The Telegraph.

From spending more time and money on upkeep of your appearance, doing more chores and putting more effort into resolving problems or arguments, being in a heterosexual relationship typically involves a lot of effort for a woman.

What’s more, women are simply happier being single than men are. We’re better at socialising by ourselves and are more likely to have close friends we feel we can turn to in times of need. 

“Women tend to be better at having alternative social networks and other confidantes whereas men tend to rely quite heavily on their wives for that and have fewer other social ties,” Dr Grundy explains.

“Certainly there’s a common finding from a lot of studies that women who don’t have a partner tend to do more social activities and more friends compared to women with partners whereas with men it’s the reverse - men without a partner tend to do much less of that.

“So it may be that women have a wider range of alternatives,” she said. 

There’s also the fact that the stigma of being a single woman is gradually changing. 

The concept of spinsters and bachelors is on the way out, and society is finally realising that yes, many single women aren’t in relationships because they’re actually happy being independent, doing whatever they want with their time, and they don’t actually need anyone else.

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Breast Pains & Pregnancy

The enlarged breasts associated with pregnancy might be the one weight gain you are enjoying. Even if you like the look of your new chest, the pain that comes with it might be more than you can bear sometimes. Breast pain, a natural part of pregnancy, is often one of the first symptoms a woman notices before she pees on the stick.

When Your Will Feel It

Many women start to feel breast tenderness or pain in the first weeks of pregnancy. Unfortunately, this is during the same time as a normal period, when breast pain might also occur. Breast pain that continues for weeks might be a sign of pregnancy. Throbbing pain might occur the edges of the breast. Tingling in or around the nipples might accompany the pain. The breast pain may range from tenderness to intense pain.

What Causes the Pain

Breast pain during pregnancy is a direct result of the increase of hormones in your body. According to the Ohio State University Medical Center, estrogen, as well as follicle stimulating hormone, luteinizing hormone, prolactin, oxytocin and human placental lactogen, flood a pregnant woman’s body and encourage breast growth, causing pain.

Why The Pain is Good

Breast pain signals a pregnancy, leading a woman to verify and seek medical consultation. Breast pain can contribute to a mom’s early intervention to care for her child. Your breasts grow and tingle as they prepare to be filled with milk to feed your baby. When the pain starts to bother you, remember the healthy benefits and bonding time your breasts are preparing for your child.

What Else You Will Notice

The breast pain may come with other symptoms. Your nipples may grow and darken. They may start to expel milk. Although this normally happens near the end of a pregnancy, it could happen any time during the gestation. This early milk may ooze out with a yellow tinge. If your breasts feel hot or unusually tender, consult your doctor to ensure you don’t have an infection. Otherwise, this yellow fluid is likely colostrum, a normal early milk full of immunity-building nutrients.

Finding Relief

As your breasts start to feel heavy and bouncy, invest in a nursing bra that will support the full breasts. While you may not want to purchase a lot of maternity clothes, a bra will serve you even after you give birth and will relieve pain throughout the pregnancy. Look for a bra that comfortably holds your whole breasts to avoid any rubbing or chafing that could cause more pain. A bra pad insert will help with the early milk.

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"Pregnancy Boobs" Learn From this 9 Women

When your body is making room to grow another human, it makes sense that things might get shifted around and change during the process. You're certainly familiar with the obvious changes (ie, growing a belly), but what about some of the lesser talked-about symptoms, like the millions of ways your boobs can look and feel different? 

According to the Mayo Clinic, in your first trimester, you might have breast tenderness, and in your second trimester, you might notice more changes like general breast enlargement. Not to mention color changes and fluid discharge. Bodies: they're wild! This can be caused by hormone changes your body is making to prepare for breastfeeding.

Just like everything with pregnancy, no symptoms are universal. Here, nine new mothers (and some who are pregnant right now) share all the details about how their breasts evolved throughout their pregnancy:

1. "During pregnancy the first thing I noticed — before even taking the test — was how sore my boobs were. As I got more and more pregnant my boobs got huge and heavy. As a formerly small-breasted lady, I had always wanted bigger boobs, but I found myself really not enjoying it. I hated taking my bra off because my boobs would hit my stomach and it just felt awkward and weird." — Jacqueline, 31

2. "During my first pregnancy my breasts immediately became more full and my nipples were super sensitive and felt very sexual. During breastfeeding, whenever my nipples were touched by anything, (even shower water!) they elicited an unwarranted sexual response and sexual urge, kind of like the feeling right when you hit 'air-time' when going down a roller coaster, except in my pants. They increased by two cup sizes even before I gained very much weight — by the second trimester!" —Jen, 35

3. "I actually thought I was pregnant at first because of the way my breasts and underarms felt. I had soreness for about a week, and I kept thinking ‘Did I work out too hard or something?’ Since we had been trying to get pregnant for a year, I thought I should take a pregnancy test. It was positive! My breasts grew during the whole pregnancy and my husband made sure to let me know as well." — Jennifer, 36

4. "Throughout pregnancy, my breasts have gone through a wave of evolution. While my belly has grown from the size of an orange to a watermelon, my breasts have transformed from hard little apples to big, juicy, easily bruised mangos. The first trimester they felt sore and tight all the time, with a constant prickly pain that was amplified three times by even the slightest touch, brush, or jab. The second trimester they felt itchy, tender and squished—I had to upgrade to a bigger bra to make room. Now, near the end in my third trimester, they are just big and in the way—they feel like they could spill out at any moment."—Krystal, 35

5."When I got pregnant for the first time, I was a small B cup. My breasts grew to a C cup and breasts felt full and heavy — like they do when you get your period. An extremely noticeable difference in my breasts during pregnancy was when they started to leak colostrum! I would have yellow fluid, (sometimes called "liquid gold" by lactation consultants) leaking from my nipples and making crusty marks in my bras. It was a very strange sensation to be able to expel fluid from my nipples before my breastmilk was anywhere near being produced. I also HATED wearing any underwire during this time so I opted for camisoles with built-in shelf bras for maximum comfort but minimal support. My rib cage expanded a lot to make room for the baby, so I ended up going from a 32B to a 36C during my pregnancy. After pregnancy, my breasts have definitely changed physically, but my relationship with my breasts is what changed the most. They went from being a part of my sexual identity to my children's food 

source and then a very long road back to being sexual again."—Kenna, 30

6. "One of the first things I noticed during my pregnancy was my breasts starting to feel larger and heavier. More there than before. As someone who barely fit into a B cup before, it's kind of shocking to all of a sudden have such a boob presence. They're also much more noticeable because they're so sensitive. I've even had to back off on great big hugs because it can kind of hurt. I'm glad I used to always wear bras that were a little too big — now they fit perfectly." — Laura, 28

7. "While pregnant with my first, my breasts were ginormous. They were seriously bigger then my belly until about seven months. They were the focal point of my whole body… They were heavy and sore and then heavy again. While they didn’t change color, they were just so big I had to buy several new bras. After having the baby, they ballooned to a size H — I did not know that even existed. But [they] gradually shrunk as I breastfed."—Monica, 39

8. "My breasts are very sensitive to the touch and need to be gently massaged before sexual activity so that they don’t cause pain. Throughout my past pregnancies I noticed that my areola became bigger and darker. One tip as you get bigger is to put powder between your breasts and under them, so that they don’t get irritated and sweaty rubbing together and sitting on your belly." —Kelly, 32

9."My breasts were extremely sore and very, well... bloated. They felt like they were going to explode! If I was able to view them from the inside out, I would swear they were bruised. They were very, very painful to the touch. Post-pregnancy wasn’t any better as breast feeding is also painful at first, but there was some relief once I was able to discharge milk." —Jennifer, 45

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You Are Someone's Choice! Pre-wedding Photos Of This Curvy Lady & Her 'Dwarf' Groom Melt Hearts

Relationship expert,  Solomon Buchi Bartholomew shared these beautiful photos on Facebook to inspire those with low-self esteem, he wrote;

Always remember that you’re someone’s choice; just the way you are, without editing or recreation. You’re everything someone needs, and your flaws will be beautiful to them. Never for a moment regret how you look, or the natural features you came with.
People will make jest of your big nose, small ear, short nature, fat body, but believe me when I say your flaws beautify you. To feel bad about them is to feel bad about your selling point.
Cool. Some folks don’t like it. But there’s someone who’d die for you for just the same reason others left you.
Build your esteem with your own words of value. You’re beautiful. Deserving of love. Enough. And someone’s choice.
It’s okay if they reject you. Someone’s praying to have you.

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Mental illness may be hereditary: study

Mental illness associated with early childhood adversity may be passed from one generation to another, according to a study of adults whose parents evacuated Finland as children during World War II.

Researchers found that daughters of female evacuees had the same high risk for mental health disorders as their mothers, even though they did not experience the same adversity. The study by researchers at Uppsala University in Sweden and Helsinki University in Finland could not determine why the higher risk for mental illness persisted across generations.

Possible explanations include changes in the evacuees’ parenting behaviour stemming from their childhood experience or epigenetic changes – chemical alterations in gene expression, without any changes to underlying DNA.

“Many studies have shown that traumatic exposures during pregnancy can have negative effects on offspring,” said Stephen Gilman, from Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development in the US.

“Here, we found evidence that a mother’s childhood traumatic exposure – in this case separation from family members during war – may have long-lasting health consequences for her daughters,” said Gilman, author of the study published in the journal JAMA Psychiatry.

From 1941 to 1945, roughly 49,000 Finish children were evacuated from their homes to protect them from bombings, malnutrition and other hazards during the country’s wars with the Soviet Union, researchers said.

The children, many of them only preschoolers, were placed with foster families in Sweden. In addition to separation from their families, the children faced the stresses of adapting to their foster families, and in many cases, learning a new language. Upon their return, many children experienced the additional stress of readjusting to Finnish society.

The researchers compared the risk of being hospitalised for a psychiatric (mental health) disorder among offspring of the evacuees to the risks of psychiatric hospitalisation among the offspring of the siblings who remained with their parents.

Studying the two groups – cousins to each other – allowed the researchers to compensate for family-based factors that can contribute to mental health problems and to focus instead on the evacuees’ wartime experience.

In a previous study, the researchers found that women evacuated as children were more than twice as likely to be hospitalised for a psychiatric disorder than their female siblings who remained at home. For the current study, the researchers linked records from this generation – more than 46,000 siblings born between 1933 and 1944 – to those of their offspring, more than 93,000 individuals born after 1950.

Of these, nearly 3,000 were offspring of parents who had been evacuated to Sweden as children, and more than 90,000 were offspring of parents who remained in Finland during the war. The researchers found that female evacuees and their daughters were at the greatest risk for being hospitalised for mood disorders, such as depression and bipolar disorder.

The evacuees’ daughters had more than four times the risk of hospitalisation for a mood disorder, compared to the daughters of mothers who stayed home – regardless of whether their mothers were hospitalised for a mood disorder.

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