When it comes to getting down on one knee, some men find it old fashioned (kind of like asking for her hand from her parents). But if you decide to kneel, you should do it the right way.
“Getting down on one knee is still the custom when proposing to someone, and not doing so might make the moment too casual, or may not make it clear to the intended what is happening, and that this is the moment. The custom is from days when men bent down and kissed women on the hand. It is reverting and respectful, and it is a touch that should never go out of fashion,” Martinez explains.
Once you’re down there, you might worry about what to say. Again, as Martinez notes, it’s really up to the type of person you are and what kind of woman she is, that should inspire your speech. “If you are shy, like my husband, your preference is to plan something small simple and private. If you and your partner are extroverts, you might plan something more elaborate and unique.”
What to do with that ring Up until the proposal, you should keep it somewhere safe and hidden (and nope, not the sock drawer). You could keep it locked with a key at your desk at work or in a safety deposit box, just to make sure nothing unfortunate happens or she doesn’t go searching and stumble across the prized good. And how about when to hand it to her? When she says ‘yes!’
What to do with that ring Up until the proposal, you should keep it somewhere safe and hidden (and nope, not the sock drawer). You could keep it locked with a key at your desk at work or in a safety deposit box, just to make sure nothing unfortunate happens or she doesn’t go searching and stumble across the prized good. And how about when to hand it to her? When she says ‘yes!’
“You show it to her while you ask, but you do not hand or exchange the ring to her until she officially answers with a resounding yes. Do not start to put it on their finger before she has answered the question, this is an exciting, but nerve wracking time. You do not want to add any additional pressure,” Martinez says.
The biggest mistakes you can make when proposing are all about not putting your partner’s happiness first. While lots of people have certain proposal expectations, make sure the one you plan is in line with your partner's wishes and personality.
What does that imply? Things like: “Having an audience, when this is not in your partner’s nature. Not asking the parents for their blessing, and not subtly finding out your partner’s preferences in the most important piece of jewelry they will wear everyday for the rest of their life are all mistakes that could ruin what would be a very special moment for your future wife,” Martinez says.
Bottom line? Think of her first — and think of how lucky you’ll be to hear that "Yes!"
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