MOVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP FROM BORING TO LIVELY

Are you getting bored in a relationship? And want to know know to fix a boring relationship?

When we think of romantic relationships, we think thoughts of loving and being happy with that special someone. But over the years, when you’ve got to know each other too well and things have become a routine, the excitement seems to fade away.

So, how do you keep things romantic and always exciting in a relationship? 

How can you or your partner avoid feeling like the romance is gone? 

You shouldn’t only spice things up at the beginning in order to build a relationship with your special someone. 

You have to do it at different points throughout your years together. It’s the secret to a happy and healthy relationship. So how can we achieve this?

Sex,Lighted candles, body massage, and bubble baths are simply not enough to keep the romance alive. You need to liven things up and re-introduce romance into the relationship. sit back and enjoy as we take you through the 10 things that will undoubtedly bring your relationship alive, you've got to shift the paradigm

1. Reignite Past Positive Memories: Dwelling on the bad things won’t change those things. It’s better to think of all the good times you’ve spent together. Visit those memorable places you’ve been to before such as where you spent your first anniversary or where you first met. Spend some time away from work or other things that’s been keeping your attention away from each other. Some time alone together in these places will help cause you both to remember the way ye felt about each other then.
2. Learn to understand and be forgiving of your partner’s mistakes: The best times in any relationship are said to be the first few years of being a couple. And as time goes by, either one or both of you become less demonstrative of your affection to the other. You also find yourselves arguing even on the smallest things. The reality is that a lot of these petty fights can be avoided if you just know how to understand and forgive your partner’s mistakes or shortcomings. Be sensitive to his or her needs as well. You’ll never be able to spice things up if you can’t have a positive outlook in your relationship.
3. Find change within yourself: Often, we say we love our partner because of who he or she is. But at the back of our mind, we are actually expecting that our partner will become the person we want for us. This will eventually come out sooner or later, when you find yourselves getting into a lot of misunderstandings and hurt. Don’t try to change your partner into someone you want him or her to be. If you want change, start within yourself. Figure out where you need to improve or ask your partner what he’d like better from you. Improving how you are in the relationship does a lot to improve the relationship itself.
4. Be expressive of your love and be generous on compliments: A good compliment is always appreciated. So, learn to be vocal on what you like about your partner and what you appreciate him doing. Don’t overlook simple things such as saying “thank you” and “I love you” whenever appropriate. Simple courtesies bring you back to the basics of romance.
5. Encourage one another to talk and listen: A common scenario is the woman nagging and a man not listening or both man and woman are talking and shouting at each other. This can be prevented if you both know how to listen and give each other the time to talk. Usually, men are not used to talking compared to women. So, if you’re a woman, try to balance this out by letting your man talk while you listen. If you’re the only one who does the talking, you’ll never hear what your partner has to say! An open communication line will make it much easier for romance to flow back into the relationship.
6. Find ways to release stress: Allotting time for relaxation will help get rid of all the stress and pressures in life, and allow you to be sensuous to your partner again. This helps allow you be in tune again with one another and make you see each other in a better light. Passion will consequently have a better chance of burning when you both have removed the bad stress from your lives..
7.  Work on your perceptions. It may be the perception of your relationship, rather than the reality, that will determine whether it’s boring. Having a routine, feeling comfortable with each other, and enjoying your similarities don’t seem to be all that important in defining a boring relationship. However, if you believe what you see in romantic comedies, you might think that if you’re not jetting off to grand destinations or dressing up in sexy attire before you make love, then there’s something wrong with you. Simply enjoying your partner as a person may be the most important and easiest fix for a boring relationship.
8.  A little surprise goes a long way. One of the first things to go in long-term relationships is the element of surprise. You get into a routine, and you no longer arbitrarily decide to take her away for a weekend or buy him a gift just because you felt like it.Perhaps you do still buy ‘gifts,’ but it’s an extra pair of socks when you were at the supermarket because you noticed all his socks have holes rather than the cute or hilarious trinkets you used to buy at the start of your relationship.The bouquets of flowers and turning up at lunch breaks with a picnic basket are gone, and you are less willing to make a fool of yourself to make the other person laugh or smile.Put yourself in your partner’s shoes for a few minutes once a month and ask yourself what would be a lovely surprise for them. It doesn’t have to be anything huge—just something considerate that would be appreciated.Although it sounds like an oxymoron, planning more surprises can initiate those weak-at-the-knees passionate feelings that you felt in the earlier stage of your relationship.Plan the surprises that were more spontaneous before and you may re-experience that love rush. You might even develop your ability to be spontaneously romantic again.

9. Do the things that don’t matter to you but matter to them. At the beginning of a relationship it can seem easy enough to do the dishes straight away after a meal if it buys you brownie points and more affection. But it’s harder when you’re comfortable in the relationship, don’t really feel like it, and can’t understand what all the fuss is about.

   Maybe the phobia or habit that was cute and quirky a year ago now seems annoying and irritating when you always have to get rid of the spider/take the trash out. Perhaps you don’t understand why your partner needs some downtime by themselves and wish they were more like you in wanting to share thoughts and feelings as soon as they get home.
   If it’s something that doesn’t make sense to you but is important to them and would only take a little bit of time, do it. In a mature relationship, passion can be shown by genuinely understanding and responding to your partner’s needs.
   Not responding to these can send the message that you aren’t interested in what’s important to them, and it indirectly suggests you aren’t interested in them.
   I have found these points really helpful in my relationship, so I hope they are to you. Having brought up the subject and talked about it with my partner, we are both now trying to surprise each other, listen more, and find ways to be romantic and affection toward each other.
   There are many more ways you can re-light the spark in your relationship. I’m still finding more. Look at it as a lifelong adventure!
   The most important thing is to give it time in your own head and to prioritize your relationship so that you keep working on it regularly, like you would with any priority in your work life. Then hopefully you can be grow old together but still maintain that flicker of passion in your hearts.
10. If necessary, seek counseling. Relationship counseling can work, and if you're not making progress on your own, talking to a professional can give you a much-needed perspective. Lay out the problem as one involving boredom, not conflict, and you're likely to get very different advice than if you were trying to figure out how to argue less often. In fact, by addressing the boredom piece of the issue, you'll be much less likely to suffer the more deleterious consequences of conflict. A professional counselor can help you learn to tell the difference and get you talking in ways that keep the interest factor strong and alive in your relationship.

Why can’t I have a romantic love story like in the movies?

Because what you see in the movies is an idealized version of love. What do i mean by this? Well have you ever seen those perfect photoshoots of models only to find out that what you see isn’t actually real at all, but that their faces and bodies have been heavily touched up in order to make them more beautiful?

The same holds true for hollywood romantic rom-coms. These types of films are pleasing on the eye and mind and show how love would look in a perfect world …but not the real world. This is what each and every person must realize when entering a relationship or marriage. It is possible to have a romantic love story that is completely fulfilling and satisfying, but you must realize that you shouldn’t be trying to chase the fiction you see in hollywood, bollywood or African magic movies. 

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