Birthday shoot Turns engagement as man proposes to girlfriend of 6 months

It was quite a dramatic and emotional moment for Temidayo Bobolanle, whose boyfriend of 6 months proposed to while posing for his birthday shoot.

Temidayo who broke news of her engagement on Instagram, wrote;

“My love, happy birthday Olakunle mi. I pray that this shall be the least you will ever be. God shall continually bless you for just being so selfless and loving to everyone you meet. You inspire me everyday. You still found a way to make your birthday about me. I can’t wait to celebrate many more amazing days with you forever! My cuddle buddy for life can’t believe you came into my life march of this year. This is a testimony to show that God is faithful. Engagement shoot turned to another proposal. #MeettheAfonjas #64daystogo Thank you ”

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MY EXPERIENCE AFTER QUITING SEX FOR ONE YEAR------BRUNA NESSIF

"I had to fight overwhelming sexual urges just to prove a point to myself."

I haven't had sex in over a year, and the trek through my personal Mojave Desert has been both enlightening and frustrating (for obvious reasons).

Why the self-induced dry spell? It all started in late 2015, when a hot guy in one of my friend's Instagrams made me stop mid-scroll. After some double taps on his page, he let me know the interest was mutual by sliding into my DMs. And much to my simultaneous delight and surprise, there was actual substance in our conversations. It didn't take long before the DMs turned to texts and the texts turned to phone calls every single day. I had a serious case of OMG-am-I-about-to-be-in-a-relationship giddiness. But that didn't last long. Amid entering we-are-but-we-aren't territory, I learned that he had just gotten out of a long-term relationship and wasn't looking for anything serious. Instead of making peace with that and letting it go, I acted like I was fine with his disclaimer because the chemistry between us was too strong to ignore (and, let's be real, I was in denial).

Clearly, things were a pretty healthy start.

I kept trying to tell myself that I was cool with having sex with a guy who didn't want to be my boyfriend. I was cool with knowing that he was talking to other girls. I was cool with the fact that it was just sex and nothing else, because as R. Kelly said, there's nothing wrong with a little bump and grind. Except none of that was true and R. Kelly should never be someone you turn to for advice on anything, ever.

Our generation tends to look at sex as a means-to-an-end instead of a privilege.

I couldn't hold up the façade with our situation for long, though, and my DM Casanova became the catalyst for making a much deeper lifestyle change. I was tired of playing out the same scenario with different guys, so after coming to terms with the fact that I wanted something he wasn't willing to give me, we turned our situationship into a platonic friendship, and I started doing some inward digging to figure out why I was always engaging in behavior that never aligned with what I wanted.

Whether it was my first boyfriend cheating on me because I was scared to ditch my V-card or the mere fact that our generation tends to look at sex as a means-to-an-end instead of a privilege, I was somehow made to believe that having sex was necessary to make a guy like me — and if I didn't do it, then poof, he was going to disappear and it'd be my fault. Sad!

So, in an effort to alter that mindset, I decided I was going to abstain from casual sex. I told myself I wouldn't give it up until the guy I was talking to made me feel like the goddess I am. No more worrying about other women, because the right guy will make it clear that I'm all he sees. Boom. The trouble is: finding that guy and ending my dry spell might take longer than I thought.

I was so hyped those first few months, because I felt like I was finally reclaiming my power and no one could tear me down. But when I surpassed the six-month mark, the initial surge of self-empowerment began to fade, and I found myself doubting the whole experiment and wanting to throw in the towel. The little horny devil on my shoulder would say things like, "Does this really matter? Get some, girl!" And in all honesty, I was starting to get pissed, because all I kept coming across were what I like to call "sometimey" guys — the I'm-only-in-it-when-I-want-to-be-in-it guys. That's frustrating enough on its own, without adding the fact that I had to fight overwhelming sexual urges just to prove a point to myself.

I had to fight overwhelming sexual urges just to prove a point to myself.

Meanwhile, some of my friends made the idea of quitting this journey that much harder to ignore. Because I'm the token single friend, some of my girlfriends loved living vicariously through me, so my decision to willingly give up "wild sex with strangers" was almost like putting them on lockdown, too. "Ugh, Bruna, it's just sex, stop thinking so much!" they'd tell me. I wondered if they were right.

Then I'd have the maybe-joking-but-probably-serious sexual invitations from some of my oh-so-generous guy friends and former flings to put me out of my self-induced misery with a casual hook up. Temptation was at an all-time high, to say the least. But ultimately, I never gave in. I was going to power through, because I owed it to myself, and it didn't matter if anyone understood why I was doing this or not.

After that hump (pun intended), the hormones settled down a bit (or they just gave up). My urges came to a simmer, and I found myself approaching the one-year mark — and I'm still going. I know that going a week without getting laid may seem like cruel and unusual punishment for some, and although a year of no sexual intimacy whatsoever has been tough, it's not that difficult for me. My sex life wasn't off-the-charts to begin with, so it wasn't like I was dodging D everywhere I turned. I went on dates as usual, but nothing really panned out.

Still, I find myself having mixed feelings about the entire experience. There was a hint of sadness at the realization that I've gone a year without coming across a man I liked who was also willing to invest in me. Why was that? Was it the men I was choosing or was it a consequence of having an old-school approach in a time where people don't value basic dating principles anymore? I can't say. All I know is keeping the proverbial chastity belt on lockdown didn't become the secret trick to get a guy to drop his roster and make me his MVP. But I'm OK with that, because that was never the motive to begin with.

This experience was like giving myself some tough love. And as frustrating (sexually and otherwise) as that lesson was, it was necessary. I did this experiment to help trash the mentality of having to throw sex at a man to keep his interest, and to remind myself that I am worth loving without having to spread my legs first. I stuck to my guns, and for that reason alone, the disappointment was overshadowed with immense pride. I wanted to stop putting myself in scenarios that made me feel disposable, and I did. I wanted to wait for the man who would bet on me, and I still am, because I know what I bring to the table.

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ADVICE TO ALL MOTHERS

Every mother has struggled with the question of whether she is doing a good enough job.  It’s only natural to worry about our children, and whenever one of them does something wrong, we ask ourselves if we did anything to cause the behavior.  However, it’s important to remember that God gave you your children for a reason.  He obviously thought you could do the job perfectly.  So how do you conquer these inner uncertainties and become a mother who knows she is not only good enough, but great?

1.    Release the inner critic. No mother should ever compare herself to any other parent.  Just like children, no two mothers are alike, and each parenting style has its own place.  God knew exactly what kind of parenting your child would need, and he matched each child to the right parents.  We are always our own worst critic, and it is far too easy to compare ourselves to Susie Homemaker or Cathy Corporate.  However, you can bet that Susie and Cathy are probably comparing themselves to you and also asking why they can’t be more like you.

2.    Your best is good enough. We all strive to do our best, but the problem begins when we feel like our best isn’t good enough.  No matter what we do, we might feel that our efforts come up short, but just think for a minute about how your son or daughter sees it, especially while they’re young.  Do you think they will see that mom never had the money to buy them the Halloween costume they wanted?  No, instead they will remember the fun times they had helping you make their costumes, even if those costumes never turned out exactly right.

3.    Take better care of yourself so that your best is possible. Self-care is an important part of being a mother.  A mom who doesn’t take care of herself is unable to take care of her children.  For example, a mom who is extremely sick and doesn’t take the time to go to the doctor may become weaker and weaker until she can’t even get up to get her child food.  On the other hand, if she went to the doctor and got some antibiotics, the illness would not have been so bad and it would all have been over in a couple of days.  The same is true of healthy mothers.  A mother who never takes time out for herself will feel stressed and unloved.  When she feels stressed and unloved, she is unable to love others, especially her children.

4.    Less is more. Children, especially when they are young, enjoy the simple things in life.  Kids may not remember the elaborate lengths you went through to throw them the perfect birthday party.  They won’t remember the big pile of presents, but they will remember that one small special gift you bought.  A child’s focus is scattered onto so many things all at once, but these small moments you create will shine a bright light in your child’s memories.

5.    Communication is the key. Regardless of how much your child does or doesn’t talk to you, communication is about much more than the number of words that come out of your child’s mouth.  It’s about being actively involved in their interests.  Spend some time listening to your son’s music or sit and play video games with him sometimes.  Just realize that knowing what interests your child has will give you an insight into him that you never would be able to have otherwise, even if you try to spark a conversation with him.  Establish this type of communication early so that by the time your daughter is a teenager, it doesn’t seem strange that mom is checking out her music or asking to meet her friends.

6.    Date your kids individually. Every child needs to feel important, and one of the best ways to make your children important is to spend time with each of them individually.  Sure, family time is important, but make sure that you have some time set aside for each child, and use this time to communicate and learn about their interests.

7.    Change what you believe. Sometimes being a mother is about stretching our beliefs.  We are all raised with a very specific set of believes that create the foundation of who we are, but sometimes the world changes and things are thrown off-kilter.  Every mother has images of her perfect child, tall or short, lanky or muscled, athletic or smart.  But what happens when your child doesn’t fit your expectations?  You have to be able to change what you believed about your child so that you don’t end up forcing him to be what he isn’t.

8.    Do less well. Often we feel like we have to be Super Mom, wear boots and a cape, and fly around to do everything.  We think we have to have the house perfectly clean at all times, help our kids with their homework, research and deliver a presentation that wows our client over the dinner hour, and still have a hot, homemade meal on the dinner table at home.  Of course in reality it’s pretty hard to do all of this at the same time, so just choose one thing you can focus on and do it very well.  Maybe you’re not a very good cook, but you have a knack for research and presentations.  Just focus on your work presentation and help your kids do homework afterward over a late dinner from the local takeout.

9.    Make sure the discipline matches the crime. There are all kinds of schools of thought about discipline, but the most important thing to do when disciplining is to make sure that the punishment fits the crime.  If the child is a little older, ask her what she thinks the punishment should be.  If the child is too young to understand this, make sure that the punishment is directly related to what she did.

10.    Allow your kids to fail. No parent should ever run around behind their child fixing all of their mistakes.  Of course it’s important to be there if your child makes a big mistake and to make sure he knows that he can turn to you.  But sometimes it is necessary to let him fail.  If his girlfriend breaks up with him because he spent too much time playing video games and not enough time with her, let him figure out on his own what he did wrong.  It’s ok to clue him in, but don’t fix it for him.  He will never learn how to live life and fix problems himself if mom is always there to make corrections.

Remember, being a good enough mom isn’t a matter of perspective.  It’s a fact that you are already good enough.  You only have to believe.

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WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ORGASM

Don't be shy…orgasms are as much a part of women's health For all the things you've been dying to find out as well as things you've never even thought of, expand your knowledge about the "big O" with this list of enlightening facts.

1. ORGASMS CAN RELIEVE PAIN.

Got a headache? Maybe you should have sex after all. "There is some evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of pain—including pain from arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during childbirth," notes Lisa Stern, RN, MSN, a nurse practitioner who works with Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles and blogs at Gynfizz.com. "The mechanism is largely due to the body's release of a chemical called oxytocin during orgasm," she says. "Oxytocin facilitates bonding, relaxation and other positive emotional states." While the pain relief from orgasm is short-lived—usually only about eight to 10 minutes—she points to past research indicating that even thinking about sex can help alleviate pain.

2. CONDOM USE DOESN'T AFFECT ORGASM QUALITY.

In case you're wondering if a condom has anything to do with the quality of your orgasm, don't. "Women are equally likely to experience orgasm with or without a condom, dispelling myths that condoms don't make for good sex," says Debby Herbenick, PhD, a research scientist at Indiana University and author of Because It Feels Good. "In fact, condoms may help a couple spend more time having sex, as a man doesn't have to 'pull out' quickly if he's worried about ejaculating too soon," she says. If your guy is resistant to wearing a condom because of lack of sensation, consider manual stimulation first, before intercourse, so he can have an equally enjoyable experience.

3. THIRTY PERCENT OF WOMEN HAVE TROUBLE REACHING ORGASM.

If you've ever had trouble climaxing, you're not alone. According to Planned Parenthood statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex. And as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone. Clitoral stimulation during intercourse can help, says Stern, but so can medical treatment. "Female sexual dysfunction (FSD), which encompasses the inability to orgasm, is very common—as high as 43 percent, according to some surveys—and has been a topic of much debate and medical investigation lately," she says. "For some women, topical testosterone therapies or some oral medications can be helpful, but few medical treatments have solid evidence behind them." Because FSD may be associated with certain medical conditions, be sure to see your doctor to rule out things like thyroid disease, depression or diabetes.

4. FINDING YOUR G-SPOT MAY IMPROVE THE LIKELIHOOD OF ORGASM.

Can you identify your G-spot? The "G" refers to Ernst Gräfenberg, MD, a German gynecologist who is credited with "discovering" it in the 1950s, and sex experts have long touted this area of female genitalia, which is believed to contain a large number of nerve endings, as the key to helping women achieve longer and stronger orgasm. But it's a controversial topic. Researchers in England refuted its existence recently, even after Italian researchers supposedly found the spot on ultrasound and published their findings in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Still, sex educators like Los Angeles–based Ava Cadell support the existence of the G-spot, and encourage women to find theirs. While the location may be slightly different in all women, it's most often found inside the vagina and is characterized by a "rougher" texture.

5. ORGASM GETS BETTER WITH AGE.

Sure, there are plenty of things to gripe about when it comes to age, but your sex life may actually improve—specifically the quality and frequency of orgasm, reports Dr. Herbenick. "Orgasm becomes easier with age," she says. "As an example, while 61 percent of women ages 18 to 24 experienced orgasm the last time they had sex, 65 percent of women in their 30s did and about 70 percent of women in their 40s and 50s did." Though the survey didn't indicate why orgasms come easier with age, we can assume that as women become more sexually experienced, they have more confidence in the bedroom and therefore enjoy themselves more. Additionally, the trust and intimacy that most women experience in long-term relationships can help improve sexual confidence as well.

6. WOMEN WHO MIX THINGS UP IN THE BEDROOM HAVE MORE FREQUENT ORGASM.

If you have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse, consider switching things up, says Dr. Herbenick. "It is significantly easier for women to experience orgasm when they engage in a variety of sex acts as opposed to just one act," she says. "For example, vaginal sex plus oral sex would be linked to a higher likelihood of orgasm than either one of them alone. This may be because more sex acts mean that people spend more time having sex."

7. A WOMAN'S SEXUAL SELF-ESTEEM CAN AFFECT THE QUALITY OF HER ORGASMS.

Research shows that how a woman feels about her genitals is linked to the quality of her orgasms. "As a women's health clinician, I can vouch for the fact that every vagina looks different and there is no 'perfect' way for a vagina to look," says Stern. "As long as your vagina is pain-free and you don't have any abnormal discharge, sores or other medical problems, you can consider yourself healthy and normal." Increase your orgasm potential by increasing your confidence, she says. "It's important to treat yourself the way you would want others to treat you—send yourself healthy, positive messages about yourself and your body." Another trick: Pull out a hand mirror and take a look! Getting to know yourself down there is the first step in feeling confident about your parts.

8. THERE IS AN ORGASM "GAP."

While it's true that a small number of men have trouble with orgasm, sex experts report that it's rare. Instead, a significant percentage of women report not having had an orgasm the last time they had sex, even when their male partner thought they had. "We still have an orgasm gap," notes Dr. Herbenick. "While 85 percent of men thought their partner had an orgasm during their most recent episode of sex, only 64 percent of women reported having an orgasm." The cure? It's complicated, says Dr. Herbenick, but women who are comfortable with and understand their body's pleasure points can often learn to orgasm regularly.

9. IN RARE CASES, ORGASM CAN HAPPEN WITHOUT GENITAL STIMULATION.

We've all heard about women who can orgasm while sitting on a train or while getting a massage, but it's no urban legend. Experts say it's a real phenomenon.  there's an explanation for why this occurs. "The reason for spontaneous orgasms during certain activities is twofold—increased blood flow to the genitals and vibration of or contact with the clitoris. The increased blood flow and the general relaxation of a massage can lead to orgasm sometimes, too."

10. FOR MOST WOMEN, IT TAKES A WHILE…

Many women take longer to climax than their male partners, and that's perfectly normal, says Stern. In fact, according to statistics, most women require at least 20 minutes of sexual activity to climax. "If you find that your partner often reaches orgasm before you do, there are ways to help him slow down," she says. "Mental exercises can sometimes work, and so can firm pressure around the base of the penis. If premature ejaculation is a concern, your partner may want to see a primary care doctor or urologist to find some techniques that might help."

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POPULAR SINGER ASA LOST HER VIRGINITY AT 28

France-based Nigerian singer, songwriter, and recording artist, Asa, has opened up on her private life in a tell-it-all explosive interview. While speaking in an exclusive interview with Funmi Iyanda, multi-award winning Nigerian-French singer, Bukola Elemide, popularly known as Asa, revealed that she lost her virginity at 28.

In the revealing interview, the 35-year-old Asa talks about battling with depression and waiting for many years before having s*x.

She  also talked about her preference in men and admitted that she compromised on them as she got older.
On the personal interview, the singer also discussed moving past rumours about her s*xuality and “stupidly” suing someone over the matter

She said, “I never wanted to date any artiste. On the day I lost my virginity, I called my manger, Janet to tell her and she was surprised that I was a very late starter. I also called my mum and she didn’t have any advice, she said, “it will be painful at first’, and I was there wondering what she was saying.

“I am ashamed to say I lost my virginity at 28, so don’t clap for me. Perhaps one of the reasons why I lost my virginity that late was because I was shy and somewhere else where I was too focused on my career that I didn’t even think about having s*x.”

On lesbianism allegations, she said, “I sued someone for writing that I was a lesbian and I regret doing so.

In hindsight I don’t think it was necessary but a lot of people nudged me to sue the writer.”

Source: ( Premium Times )

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2Baba’s Three Most Important Women Came Out To Support Him At BuckwyldnBreathless

As Nigerian pop legend, 2Baba, held his headline concert, he was supported by three of the most important women in his life: his wife Annie and their two daughters Isabella and Olivia Idibia.

The adorable trio walked the red carpet en route to the arena where Daddy was serenading thousands of adoring fans.

Annie has been a part of 2Baba’s career since his early days with boy group Plantashun Boiz; and even now, many years later, she’s still as present as she was.

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HEALTH BENEFIT OF PAWPAW

Pawpaw is one of the most important fruit plants of a tropical zone which is daily used by millions of people and have sweetish taste and very strong pleasant aroma.
Papaya also known as pawpaw is a cerise-orange coloured juicy fruit, which is not only fragrant and delicious but also very healthy. It has been famous for hundreds of years and it was once called the “fruit of the angels” by Christopher Columbus.

Papaya is a natural source of vitamins and minerals that are essential for the normal functioning of the body. It is famous for the luscious taste and sunlit colour of the tropics and can be eaten as a fruit in raw form, a smoothie, a milkshake, and as a vegetable in various recipes.

Better digestive health

Papayas are commonly used to aid digestion. The presence of papain, a digestive super enzyme, improves digestion by breaking down proteins and also cleanses the digestive tract. This ensures a reduced conversion of protein into body fat. If the protein in our diet is not digested properly, it may cause arthritis, constipation, diabetes, high blood pressure and other related health conditions.

Promotes weight loss

Papayas are also good for people who are trying to lose weight naturally. Having a bowl full of papaya as a mid-evening or mid-morning snack is good for health.

Prevents infections

Papayas are effective for killing intestinal worms, thereby avoiding infections and complications associated with them.

Anticancer properties

Researchers have discovered that papayas are effective against chest, pancreatic and other cancers. A papaya leaf extract obtained from dried leaves produced anti-carcinogenic effects against tumour cells that were grown in the laboratory.

It was observed in a study conducted by a University of Florida researcher Nam Dang, and his colleagues in Japan, that the effects were stronger when the cells were given larger doses of tea.

The scientists exposed different types of cancer-affected cells to different papaya leaf extracts and found that the growth of tumors had slowed down in all the cultures. The fruit has gained credibility and has been used in many western medicines for its anticancer powers.

Skin care

Papayas can be great revitalizing agents, which is why they are used in many cosmetics. Also, papayas are used in homemade face masks by many women.

Papain kills dead cells and purifies the skin. The beneficial properties and the healing enzymes present in papaya help treat sunburn and irritated skin. A good facial massage using papaya is a fabulous remedy to remove the dead cells.

Source: organicfacts.com

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